Is it normal for two year old to disagree and talk back!?!

[Mamabear12]

My daughter is one of the sweetest little things...however, she does like to disagree a lot and talk back! She does this even if she wants something...and says she doesnt want it (when I know she does). Only to a second later after I say okay, you dont want it and take it away that she wants it! Why cant she just listen and do what she wants/is supposed to! For example: Time to get dressed so we can go to the park. DD "I dont want to go to the park." after me trying to convince her to get dressed, Im finally like okay, we dont need to go to park then (after she says a few times she doesnt want to go to park)! Then she says she wants to go to park! OR if she pushes her brother and im like "okay, you are going to time out!" DD "OKay, I want to go to time out! Take me to time out!" ARGH!! Terrible twos?? I feel like she is a teenager already! Dont get me wrong, she is plenty nice, sweet, kind etc. But she does have her moments (a few times every day!) where she is difficult, disagrees etc. WHY??

Developing her sense of self. Experimenting to see what happens inside herself and outside herself when she tries on different hats.

All very normal.

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Ahhh yes it's normal.... Healthy even.... She is learning to stand up for herself in a safe environment so that she isn't a walk over later in life. Or something. Can I suggest shit loads of wine over the next year or so to ride you through it?!

Yep, Terrible Twos.

Very normal, the beginnings of learning that they are not the king or queen of the universe :-)

Eat cake.

Cbeebies.

"Ooooo look! A bird / squirrel / plastic bag floating about / speck of dust.....isn't that fascinating ....!" .

I have to say my DS is really easy going so doesn't do this a lot but my niece (7) was (and still is) the queen of back chat she was so funny with it little hands on hips refusing point blank to do what she was told, she is growing out of it but needs a firm hand and needs to be told the consequences of things from the start.

She is with me 3/4 days a week and 1 night I've found when she says no I don't want to I need to be firm with it if it's something we have to do like get dressed for school then she is told she needs to get dressed for school and if she does it quickly she will be allowed to go out to play after school if she messes around she won't be out. If it's something we don't have to do she is asked twice and if she says no then there is no changing her mind. I do the same for DS (2) I think it makes it easier on everyone knowing where they stand and they know when I say no sweets/park/tv I mean it I won't forget or give in.

I didn't start being firm with my niece until DS came along and I didn't have time to do battle with her I do wonder if DS is better at doing what he's told because I've been quite firm all his life and DN didn't get it until she was 5. It could just be their nature though who can say.

Sillymilly, oh the wine def helps us a few times a week ;) a glass or two in the evening :) i try to be firm with her, but man it can be tiring! she is so stubborn and determined! and opposite girl! but so funny, cheeky, cute and clever at the same time! at least her brother seems easy going.....so far! He turns 1 at the end of the month...so has not hit the terrible twos just yet lol.

Lol -

pass me the blue cup, please.

No - it red one.

My 2 yo knows his colours but boy he contrary!

Oh yes. Dd is hilarious for this!

Bedtime took ages as she changed her mind four times about her PJs. She gave me grief for wanting to bathe her then decide she did want one after all. She wanted bedtime cuddles then didn't then did.

Normal :)

My DS doesn't talk much yet. But you ask him do you want xyz, and even if he does... the answer is NO (or BAH in his case - which means no!).

I've read that this is totally normal. I just laugh at him, and give him it anyway and tell him I think he means yes!

DS who is just 2 started last week with "No, I already".

Sounds exactly like my 2 and a half year old. He argues all day long, asks me what something is/ what it is called and then tells me no it's not. It's infuriating but funny at the same time. He also never wants to go anywhere but when we get there doesn't want to leave. Think he just likes opposites right now!

All the time from my 2.4 year old!

Examples- do you want a drink? No! OK then. Want a drink! Cue tantrum.

Do you want a cuddle? No! I don't want a cuddle. OK no problem. Want a cuddle! Cue tantrum.

Exasperating!!!

My 3 year old does this.

If I threaten the naughty step she'll declare she loves the naughty step and happily take herself there.

She also likes to be contrary, but I'm well aware she gets this from me!

Mine has just turned 2 and does this - drives me nuts.

I work with 2 year olds and have learnt never to ask a question that could end in a no answer!
Give them choices but choices that you have manipulated
They also like a challenge so I tell them they couldnt possibly take their coat off by themselves as only big boys/girls can do that
I also suggest their behaviour before they do it - for example if they are not sharing and a situation is developing, I would diffuse the situation by praising the behaviour I want to see by saying something like" oh you are so good at sharing. You are such a good friend. Youve made James so happy by giving him one of the 20 cars you are holding.! They are so eager to please they do as ive suggested and they think they have done it themselves

Um yes. Very very normal.

insancerre We tried that with our toddler DS and you still get no. No to both options.

He's a head fuck I'm telling you!

Do you want the blue cup, or the orange cup? NO.

Do you want carrots or sweet corn? NO

Etc.

Very normal. Both my Ds' have gone/ going through it. From what I remember DS1 didn't really improve until over 3 and half years old. DS2 is 2.10 and is the most argumentative little bugger ever (particularly to his big brother!) He's adorable most of the time but just very VERY opinionated. Argues with his brother over everything. Very hard work.

My Twin DSs didn't do this, but they were very laid back.
My DD however is a complete pain for it!
'Banana please mummy' mummy hands over banana
'no yuck' mummy takes banana away
'Ohhh my banana back!?' mummy gives banana back, DD eats banana
I wouldn't mind so much if it weren't EVERY single time. It's the same with everything from food/drink to cutlery/plates to toys or shoes or what to read or watch!
I am really hoping she stops it soon. I might go mad otherwise.

My 3yo started this when he turned 2.
Giving choices didn't work. Neither did positive reinforcement! He's always been an incredibly spirited child.

By 20 months he was speaking in sentences, very clearly. Now he corrects me and other people, and argues for the sake of it.
"It's NOT a petit filous, it's a petit fil-ah." Even when he knows he's wrong.

I think it's my penance for something I did in a previous life. He'd argue with his shadow.

We also got "I don't WANT any presents from Santa and I don't WANT to be good."

Hmmm.

My two year old would pick a fight with himself, he is 'spirited' and is the polar opposite of his rule-abiding brother. DS2 is my little anarchist but it really really really isn't easy. He's gonna be a sod when he hits his teens.

You've never heard of the terrible twos?!