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Cutlery stand-off!

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ChampagneTastes · 08/10/2014 20:43

I have a 2yo DS. He is surprisingly competent with cutlery, recently he's even been cutting properly with a knife and fork. He always uses a spoon or fork to eat. However in the last couple of days he's been refusing to use his fork at all. We are eating meals with gravy or sauce so definitely not finger food. DH is not willing to tolerate this at all and so it's becoming a bit of a stand-off situation. Left to my own devices I think I would simply ignore it and just pile on the praise when he does use his fork.

I think part of the problem may have been me overloading his plate a bit which I'm going to try to sort out but also he seems to suddenly be quite interested in texture so will pick up beans and squish them between his fingers in a way he never used to like.

We have been taking his dinner away after a couple of warnings to use his fork but I'm not sure it's helpful and he's not bothered. I should mention that there's no tantrum taking place at all, it's just a refusal to do it as we want. So is this a fight worth having? I'm torn because we do want him to develop good habits but I also don't like having so much negativity at the dinner table.

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wingcommandergallic · 08/10/2014 20:46

At 2 I don't think it's a fight worth having. He's still enjoying exploring his world.
I think I'd give him lots of praise when he does use cutlery and I'm sure it'll pass quickly.
Does he go to nursery? I'd probably talk to them too and make sure he's encouraged to use cutlery there as well.

Scrounger · 08/10/2014 21:21

It is a stage that will pass, just let him enjoy the food and I think that is far more important than insisting on using cutlery.

lighteningmcmama · 09/10/2014 08:53

I would just change your meals you eat for a little while to things that can be finger food. In a little while when the stand off is forgotten then try to reintroduce cutlery if that is important to you/your dh

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BedPig2013 · 09/10/2014 11:16

I'd just ignore it I think, dd is 20 months and only uses a spoon or fork when she feels like it and that's fine by me. I'm sure this stage with your ds will pass but it might take longer if he realises that it's getting to you

HoldenMcGroin · 09/10/2014 11:28

How about offering textures in play alongside ignoring?

Dry oats on a tray/shaving foam on a plate/gloop made with cornflour and water (your boy can explore non-Newtonian fluid, tell your husband!)/wet sand

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