How do you get a one month old to keep a dummy in?

[crayon]

We are trying a dummy with DS3 and so far he has dropped it every 20 seconds and cried. How do other people get them to keep them in?

many thanks

Crayon

Cherry teat

don't force it

some babies are sucky babies and need one

other babies aren't and don't

there's no point in forcing him into a dummy habit if he doesn't want to IMHO

Certain brands of dummys didnt suit ds2,he would spit them out, I found he preferred the cherry teat ones.
HTH

Gaffa tape?

Just kidding. Why would you want to force your baby to have a dummy. At the risk of being contentious (moi? ) I would be proud of my baby for refusing that nasty bit of latex badly mascarading as a nipple.

Bring it on.

sellotape

I don't necessarily want him to use one, but have been reading, and am interested in, the SIDS research that seems to show a 90% reduction in SIDS from dummy use. We thought we would just try and see if he took to one. I can't remember whether our first son (who was a very sucky baby) kept his in easily or not.

He's a boy, and has an August birthday, which is higher risk for SIDS. Yes, I know the risks are small etc etc etc, but I'm interested in this research.

Crayon

i wouldnt force it either, i tried ds2 with a dummy as he seemed to suck his hand a lot, and id rather him suck a dummy which i can take away from him than suck his thumb later, however, he kept spitting it out and since i hate the damn things i was quite glad he didnt want it, now i just hope he doesnt discover his thumb!!

have you tried a cherry teat? They were the only one s my DS liked.

What's wrong with thumb sucking?
it brings my dd shedloads of comfort

do babys keep there dummys in all night? if not then how can it help with SIDS? baffled me but maybe someone knows and can educate me on this one as id like to know

this advice wasnt around when i had ds1, but now i have a 4mth old i have found that in the 4 years there seems to be so many differnt things that have changed

My DD would only hve a cherry teat one and even then Dh suggested putting elestic bands round the back of her head to keep it in. He was joking i hope1 In the end it didn't really matter she started sucking her thumb at around 8 weeks and never had a dummy since.

piffle, initially nothing wrong, its the bit when they still suck there thumbs when the teeth are trying to grow that bothers me, and knowing my luck id have a son who would suck and push all his front teeth forward and he would look like austin power

I let mine use my nipple as a dummy. It built up a good milk supply and meant I was able to sit down and rest for long periods.

apparently the reduction in SIDS is in babies who normally have a dummy but didn't have it on that paticular night. babies who never had a dummy and ones who always do are at the same risk, a baby who usually has one but didn't that night is slightly higher.

HTH, other wise, wait a month or so til he can start shoving it back in himself

pop the dummy in his mouth and tap lightly on the round disc bit at the front.don't know why but it makes them take it.

thanks for that info pinktulip

I agree, don't push it. Ds was very contrary about whether he wanted his or not so we decided to get rid of it sooner rather than later and was pretty painless for all concerned. Now all the other mums in my PN group who shoved dummies in at every opportunity are complaining cos their ds/dd's won't go back to sleep without one etc etcand are dreading having to wean them off it.

Thanks all.

Bubbly1973, the SIDS foundation say not to put a dummy back in if it falls out, but they don't say why, and couldn't explain why not when I asked the question.

Pink Tulips, the report from the original studies seems to show a higher incident when a dummy was suddenly stopped on a particular night, and lower risk when a dummy is used every night. Problem is, the sample size is so tiny, I wonder if it is actually statistically valid anyhow.

Crayon

i wonder if sometimes we are the 'guinea pigs' without even realising it....they give out this advice and then see what the rates of SIDs is after a certain period

hmmm

Maybe Bubbly1973. I think it was irresponsible to publish a report like that when there are so many questions that can't be answered (i.e. they don't seem to say if you need to use one for every sleep, or just the night time one). It just sends sleep-deprived parents like me into a tizz!

Crayon

LOL at MGPuss suggestion os Sellotape! Piffle at least you can take a dummy off of them when they get bigger. I used to work with someone who still sucked her thumb at 32!

sorry, just realised i wrote that sentance back to front, lol. thanks for correcting me.... can we have a d'oh emoticon!

tbh, the decision to use a dummy with mine had nothing to do with sids, more to do with the fact that dd couldn't actually sleep without something in her mouth and my nipples were bleeding so badly she was spitting up blood. then with ds i didn't use one til 5 weeks as he's much less sucky, but it broke my heart having to leave him crying while i ealt with dd so i gave it to hi just to keep him happy for short periods when i simply couldn't get to him, he doesn't really use it for sleep and when he does drops it after 2 mins of deep sleep (as oddly enough does dd, then wakes up shrieking for it when she hits light sleep)