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Feel like motherbitch from hell....

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emkana · 08/04/2004 17:46

I'm a SAHM with dd1 (nearly 3) and dd2 (8 months). The last few weeks have, for various reasons, been very tiring - even more so than 'normal' weeks. I've now reached the stage where I have NO patience whatsoever left, and the scenes in which I shout get more and more frequent - do you ever get those moments where you shout at your child because they just spilt a little bit of juice or something - not because you really care, but because you've just had ENOUGH - and at that precise moment you can just see how you would watch a similar scene in an afternoon channel 5 movie and think "CLEARLY this woman is INCAPABLE of being a mother, no WONDER she ends up drowning them all in the bath"
I say BRING ON THE EASTER WEEKEND - dh better give me LOTS of rest...

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oxocube · 08/04/2004 17:51

emkana. My day has been the same. I always find a large glass of wine makes me feel more mellow (not much good at 8.30 am but works a treat after 6!! I am not bathing my kids tonight for the precise reason that drowning them would be a distinct possibility. Hope our evenings improve

Freckle · 08/04/2004 19:21

Oh I do this all the time. I rationalise that it will teach them to deal with irrational and horrible people later in life, but "in a safe environment"

And the Easter holidays are no comfort to me because, if my dh bothers to get his act together and actually book some time off work before everyone else gets any available dates, he'll spend most of the time in bed on the basis that he is very tired from working so hard all the time. Which he does. But it still leaves me entertaining 3 boys for the next 2 weeks.....

motherinferior · 08/04/2004 19:33

I use Freckle's justification. And work on the basis that if I apologise with sufficient levels of fulsome grovelling, they'll learn valuable lessons about adults and emotions and forgiveness.

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suzywong · 08/04/2004 19:42

Glad to have found this thread today. I am ragingly PMS and have yelled 4 times at darling DS1 today for nothing really, or for just getting on my nerves, and seen him wipe hurt tears form his eyes on the back of his sleeve and mutter 'go away, mama'
I'mwith motherinferioir on this one, grovel, exlplain I was wrong and get lots of kissing in.
He's in the other room chuckling at Max and Ruby now and we have had a big cuddle but I worry that this will be imprinted on his dear little brain.
Will have to sneak in to bed with him later and whisper 'sorry' in to his hair.

kiwisbird · 08/04/2004 20:04

tell me about it... am in total sympathy, have PMS big style too... was so stressed and crabby this am stubbed toe on wash machine, whacked hand on cupboard, screamed at DS 10 to tidy room, had photographer due for magazine article and then real estate agent and also roofers too, house is going on market after easter and I am just one hot oestrogen bubble
Relax have a glass of semillon and revel in the fact that you are normal!

Janh · 08/04/2004 20:08

dear mummies - my dds (22!!! and 19!!) were just about to totter out to the pub on their high heels, so before they went I quickly asked them whether they think the MAJOR ranting I used to do (PMT etc) when they were tinies has damaged them at all...when the twitches died down they said not only has it not damaged them, they think it makes them better able to cope with the various loonies they encounter in daily life.

I did used to do the whisper sorry kiss kiss into their hair when they had been asleep long enough, dunno if that made a difference or not but I really was (and still am) a very scary mummy sometimes and they are still NORMAL HAPPY PEOPLE!!!

HTH

Kayleigh · 08/04/2004 20:08

Sounds all to familiar. I got home from work and my ds1 and ds2 and have been driving me nuts. Even poured myself a glass of wine before they were in bed, whih is usually a no-no for me.
Thank god dh is home for 4 whole days. Some retail therapy is called for methinks

Hope your weekend is a good one emkana.

Babyannabel · 08/04/2004 20:09

I think that acknowledging what you are doing shows that you aren't a bad mother or incapable or any of the other things, perhaps sometimes we just try so so hard to get it all right, and with the big things we do get it right that sometimes the small things seem worse than they are? Does that make sense?? Anyway, you are completely normal, we all shout and feel awful about it straight after, but sometimes we just need someone to swoop in and say "I'll do tea/bath/supper/hoovering/etc tonight". Hope you all have better days tomorrow.

Kayleigh · 08/04/2004 20:09

oh dear, you can tell I've been at the wine

suzywong · 08/04/2004 20:21

Of course I can smile about it now that I know I am not alone and I have a big glass of wine in my hand
PMSL Kiwisbird about your precipitously irritating day

suzywong · 08/04/2004 20:21

Of course I can smile about it now that I know I am not alone and I have a big glass of wine in my hand
PMSL Kiwisbird about your precipitously irritating day

kiwisbird · 08/04/2004 20:24

never rains but it hails and snows and floods at my place but only one wk out of 4, happens to coincide with public hols when have ll kids AND DH here to take it out on....
YAY!!!!

kiwisbird · 08/04/2004 20:24

all kids not eleven
ROFLMAO

tamum · 08/04/2004 20:27

I've been very crabby with mine today, PMT too. Raises the horrible thought that we have all synchronised our menstrual cycles through mumsnet....

mamalicious · 08/04/2004 20:30

had shouting session myself yesterday couldn't sleep for thinking what an evil bitch I am must do better tomorrow - will have to have same conversation with myself tonight. Don't you just love PMS
p.s you have all just made me feel utterly normal thank you!

kiwisbird · 08/04/2004 20:32

its that whole werewolf moon thing Lavendar was banging on about, maybe its true....

Freckle · 08/04/2004 20:33

Am just wondering at Janh's post. If dds (22 and 19) have turned out OK, why have you been angsting over 14yo? I know that circumstances might be somewhat different, but you are still the same mummy!!

Janh · 08/04/2004 20:34

different Jan, Freckle

Janh · 08/04/2004 20:36

It's Janstar that has the 14-yr-old - I don't think she does ranting.

tamum · 08/04/2004 20:37

Aha! I was just wondering, I didn't recall seeing you angsting, JanH. That's great news about your dds, actually, very reassuring. Mind you if you'd been nicer to them maybe they'd have been on their way out in Birkenstocks to do a bit of birdwatching

Janh · 08/04/2004 20:40

Ohhh, tamum, that does cross my mind as well! They are terribly townie, the pair of them - high heels, short skirts, straightened hair and piles of make-up (do you think they'll be OK in the end? )

tamum · 08/04/2004 20:42

I think they sound fab actually

Janh · 08/04/2004 20:45

Thanks, tamum! They are very nice actually (most of the time!) Last night we had a lovely mad time playing that game where they stick someone's name on your forehead and you have to guess who you are (I started out as God, quite appropriate I thought!)

Freckle · 08/04/2004 20:56

oops, sorry. Muddling up nicknames has to be a hanging offense, no?

tamum · 08/04/2004 21:01

That gives me hope for the future, JanH, it sounds great!

(Freckle, there are a fair few Jan-somethings, so I'm sure you haven't offended anyone)

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