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2.8 year old, dry for a couple of months, completely regressed

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PetitFilou1 · 26/09/2006 15:16

Am posting again as not much response to my first post. I have a 2.8 year old ds. We've been potty training since the end of June. We had wee cracked for at least six weeks but....in the last fortnight he has been gradually regressing to the point where yesterday he had four accidents. I don't think he is particularly upset about anything so don't feel this is psychological. What do I do? I am prepared to put him back into nappies but dh feels this really would be a last resort and is not keen. Help please - even his nursery seem a bit unsure about what to do.

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lucycat · 26/09/2006 15:20

it's a real pita when they do this isn't it?

we had to go back to the start of me taking her (whenever I remembered) and making her go - trying not to get cross and it will rectify itself.

Is he learning to do something else? when dd2 was learning to balance on her scooter or dong a jigsaw, she 'forgot' to go she was so engrossed, and like your ds she wasn't bothered, she would just go and get herself some dry pants and trousers and put the wet ones in the washing machine!

frogs · 26/09/2006 15:20

Could it be a wind up? Dd2 is the same age and can go for ages without a wee, but has been known to have 4 sets of wet pants in quick succession at nursery. I am completely convinced she's doing it on purpose, some kind of attention seeking/ control thing.

If in doubt, try bribery. Eg. you can only have a bun on the way home from nursery if your pants are dry. After a few bun-less trips home, with the ensuing tantrums, she got the idea quite quickly.

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PetitFilou1 · 26/09/2006 15:34

Frogs - it is a complete wind up! He can go HOURS without a wee so there is absolutely no reason for him to do this. It is just like lucycat says he is no longer bothered by wet pants and if you make him take them to the washing machine he looks pleased as he's been given a grown up job to do Smarties don't work anymore as an incentive either.

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frogs · 26/09/2006 17:23

Disincentives (ie negative bribery) might work better, tho' nurseries and right-on parents might disapprove. So instead of giving them a bonus for dry pants you take a favourite treat away for wet pants (having given the plenty of warning beforehand). So dd2 was used to stopping off at the bun shop on the way home from nursery and was most put out when I explained the new deal (ie. wee in your pants = no bun). I warned her again when I dropped her off the following morning, but at home time there were several bags of wet clothes waiting for us.

I didn't even remind her, but as soon as we were out of the door she started up with, "I need a bun. Need a bun" (note the clever choice of words!) and screeched mightily when she realised I wasn't going to cave in. We had a few repeat sessions, but she seems to have given up now as she's been dry for the past couple of weeks.

Loobymum · 27/09/2006 21:00

Hi, I'm new to this site. My 2 year old has also started wetting her pants after cracking going to the toilet. Today we had 3 accidents. At first I thought it was because she was distracted playing with her friends but we had a couple of accidents at home which is very unusual. Interesting to read suggestions from other mums.

Surfermum · 27/09/2006 21:09

DD did this. Within a couple of days of starting training she was dry, naps as well, for about 5 weeks. We went camping and on the last morning she was in her 3rd pair of trousers by 10 am. I don't know whether she'd got tired, if it was the cold she had or if she was just seeing what happened if she didn't tell me she needed to go.

I went back to making a huge fuss, whooping and cheering, etc when she went on her potty and we soon got it cracked again. She's had a couple of lapses again since. The first time I did a sticker chart and for each day she had no accidents she got a sticker. When she got 10 she got to go to choose and buy a book. The next time we did a ladder and I had a fridge magnet climb up and down the ladder. Up if she was dry, down if she wasn't. When it got to the top of the ladder she got a book again. 30p total for both books as they came from charity shops, so not expensive!

I was of the opinion that if she'd been dry for 5 weeks it wasn't that she didn't know/understand what she needed to do, so I opted not to put her back in nappies.

Loobymum · 28/09/2006 16:07

Thanks Surfermum. Like the ladder idea

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