Would you be annoyed with your parents if..

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your dad was looking after your 6 year old and... They go to the playpark (bottom of road out of sight of house) and your ds aks if he can go and see if child x can come to the park. ds goes to find child x (again out of sight) and when he does not appear after about 10 minutes, your dad assumes that ds has gone inside to play so goes back himself to your house?
This happened last night and ds came back to playpark to find no grandad. He was distraught as he didn't know whether to look for him (apparently grandad "goes for walks" sometimes!) or whether to go back home. Luckily he decided to come home himself.
(Please bear in mind that ds has only very recently been allowed to play at teh park unaccompanied at all - and only then with prior arrangement and using walky talkies to keep in touch).
ALthough my dad did mention the incident, both he and my mum seem to be suggesting taht it is ds's fault for taking so long - not that perhaps grandad should have gone looking for him before going back home.
Would you be happy?

I think your dad should have made sure that ds was at the friends house or at the park.

No, I would not be happy, I would be furious. My ds1 is nearly 6 and I don't think he's ready to be play out on his own. He does "disappear" off over the hill in the park for a few minutes at a time, but he'd be out of his mind if I walked off and left him.
So, no, I would not be happy if my dad left him on his own.

your father is responsible for your ds in your absence. how on earth can a grown man blame a young child for the reasons that were given?
tbh, i would also be fuming and wouldn't let f do this again until i had drummed it into him that he cannot let your ds walk off unaccompanied and leave him to stay in the park on his own ....

(fm leaves to calm down..........

I know waht I would do but it may take a few years . I would wait untill your father had senile dementia and then do the same to him and see how he likes it LOL I am joking by the way

Your dad is barking. Maybe he's feeling guilty ?and so he should ? and is trying to shift the blame onto your ds?

You must make it clear that they can't have ds again unless they agree to YOUR rules for keeping him safe. Bet they'd have been furious if your own grandparents had pulled a stunt like this when you were young.

Whaaaat?? I'd go nuts! No way was it your ds's fault, and if he'd been ages I would have thought your dad should have been worried for his safety, not assuming he'd gone home! I would have expected him to be searching behind bushes and calling for him not tootling back off to the house. grr.