should I give it a break?

[justamum]

I have been trying to pottytrain ds (almost 2.8) for nearly 4 months and it isn't getting any better. He just doesn't tell me when he needs to go, except typically, at night when he has a nappy on!! He is driving me nuts and I keep getting really cross with him because the house is beginning to feel like a toilet with damp patches all over the place. I have just been given ads for pnd and i think this is one stress too many. I really thought he was ready but he can't be can he? I don't think this is doing either of us any good- shall I give it a break for a month or two while I get myself together?

My daughter is 4 and we still havent been successful, your baby is still very young, I'd say try again when you are in a good frame of mind. It doesnt help to get stressed about it.
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Yes give it a break, you've got enough on your plate by the sounds of it. We had two false starts with ds1. When he's ready you'll almost certainly see good progress within a week.

If it's taken four months and he's still not there, then he doesn't sound ready to me. There's no point in stressing either you or him out like this - give both of you a break and give it a rest. When he's ready it won't take long.

Definitely give it a break. I tried ds at 2.10, it didn't work so we went back to nappies but let him use the loo or potty whenever he asked. Tried again one year later and he'd mastered it within days.

I didn't try until my boys were about 3.2+ and with both it happened within a week both day and night. I would leave it as I think there is no rush and it is a stressful time to go through with the accidents and he is still young, so leave it until you are feeling up to it. Good luck.

Ta, you've confirmed what I was thinking, tbh I think I felt pressured to start him by dh/pil. I think this has definitely taken its toll on his behaviour and confidence and has made me worse. I had no worries about leaving potty training until he was 3+ but since dd was born I have just not had the courage of my convictions. I'll do what prettycandles suggests and just let him use the toilet when he asks.