I would be really grateful for some advice about potty / toilet training. Our DD (3 years 4 months) is very resistant. Over the past few weeks she has gone through phases when she will do a wee on the potty when prompted, but only once or twice ever has she done one unprompted. And never a poo.
She just doesn't seem to understand that she needs to wait until she has that feeling, and then go, rather than just going in her nappy (well, in her pull up, rather, but it's same thing, effectively). I know she has the ability to understand, because she is perfectly intelligent, which makes me think the delay is caused by an emotional issue rather than anything else.
Today, I got fed up with it - it's been going on for months, this softly softly approach, with zero progress - and I just said, I'm just going to take the pull ups away during the day. So I did, and then she got absolutely hysterical with me, sobbing and crying - I really just didn't know what to do. The last thing I want is to make this into a huge issue. So in the end I gave in and put her in a pull up again - probably the worst thing to do, but I just felt in such a quandary. My fear is that if we don't push her, she'll become dependent on the pull ups to such an extent that it'll become a major challenge to train her later (and she starts school next year!) I think she has developed a fear of it though.
Alongside all this, she is being very clingy at the moment and for the first time, we have seen real tantrums (we never really had terrible twos with her). We had a new baby boy in January of this year and there has been a normal amount of jealousy as you'd expect, but we have tried to give her loads of attention and reassurance. Any advice?