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There seem to be so many mums with three or more children on MN these days...

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dejags · 24/09/2006 03:47

I am really starting to think that three is the new two.

There seem to be so many mums on here that have 3 or more children.

What do you think?

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foxtrot · 24/09/2006 07:46

You were up early/late!
Definately agree, i have 3, but both DH and I come from families of 3 and it feels right IYKWIM.

Thomcat · 24/09/2006 07:50

I often think that. When I was growing up everyone I knew only had one brother or sister, I'm sure they did, but these days most of the people I know have 3 kids. My DP is one of 3 and given the option I'd have another as well. Think 3 is a lovely number of kids to have. Can't bear the thought of stopping at 2 but don't think I can persuade Dp otherise, we'll see.

Lucybug · 24/09/2006 07:52

I have 3...two girls and a boy in the middle. Absolutely feels right, couldn't settle with two but definately don't need a fourth!!!

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wanderingstar · 24/09/2006 08:32

I have 4; been noticing there's a lot of us about in RL.

Freckle · 24/09/2006 08:33

I have 3, all boys. But then I'm one of 3 girls, so maybe I've subconsciously gone for a balance. All the other couples in my ante-natal group (from first pregnancy) only had 2. Schools in this area are concerned as pupil numbers are dropping due to a lower birth rate, so maybe there aren't so many of us having more than 2.

Seashells · 24/09/2006 08:36

I have 3 too, although no.3 was a big surprise at the time, we did plan to have no.3 at some time in the future. I come from a family of 4 and dp from a family of 3.

It's strange really that there are so many of us as the actual national average has dropped from 2.4 to 1.6.

foxtrot · 24/09/2006 08:46

even more surprising that we have time to MN with all those LOs to look after!

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dejags · 24/09/2006 08:47

We have two now - with another on the way

I always knew our family wasn't complete at 2 and that we'd definitely have more children. I do sometimes worry about future years and paying for things - but I am sure we'll get by.

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dejags · 24/09/2006 08:48

Am in Bangkok - hence the time difference.

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agalch · 24/09/2006 08:59

I have 4 ,2 older boys who are 15 and nearly 11.We then had dd1 who is 2 and then had our last (i think) dd2 who is 8 weeks on Tuesday.

It's strange to have the 2 boys having a lie in this morning and we are up early with the girls lol.

2 boys then 2 girls feels perfect for us.

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3andnomore · 24/09/2006 10:59

Thinking about it...yeah I also know a fair few people that have 3, like we have

TooTicky · 24/09/2006 11:00

I have 4

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flack · 24/09/2006 11:04

In real life I know a lot of childless, only children or definnitely stopping at 2 couples. MN is full of parenting enthusiasts, by contrast.

serenity · 24/09/2006 11:07

I don't know that many people with 2 to be honest. Out of my friends, people have either got one or they've gone the whole hog and got three+! We'd actually like to have four, but just can't do it financially.

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crayon · 24/09/2006 12:12

I haven't read your replies yet, but I would say half of the people I know well have two children and don't intend to have any more, the other half have three.

The sensible logical ones who worry about money and practical things seem to stick with two. The rest of us have thrown caution to the wind and had three!

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crayon · 24/09/2006 12:15

Then again, I was thinking this morning that a lot of people that we know of, rather than know as such, have stopped at one (often a girl, strangely).

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FillyjonktheBananaEater · 24/09/2006 12:16

I want 3

but have velcro-nonsleeping baby and cannot take another year of babyhood...

(have had 2 nonsleeping babies now, so think I must accept that I have nonsleeping dominant genes)

oooh, am so especially now its all calmed down

can't afford a car with 3 isofix seats though

franca70 · 24/09/2006 13:26

I'd love a third

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dejags · 24/09/2006 13:33

This pregnancy (DC3) has been really hard to acknowledge as being real. Both DH and I, although delighted, can't quite believe it's happening.

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Boleyn · 24/09/2006 14:32

Actually 3 is the new 2.4 (lol). I read somewhere that there is a rise in 2+ families and 1 child or childless/free families and that the 2 child family is slightly decreasing.

I can understand the increase in 1 or no child families (age-related, break-up of relationships, positive choice etc) but not why there is a big increase in larger families. Not that anyone wants to be a statistic but are we all feeling better off now, secure in jobs etc? Could it show a post-feminist acceptance of the joys of family life/children, more benefits for failies or the acceptance of working mothers (or conversley SAHMs)??

Me, I have 2 - not going for a third though.

QueenEagle · 24/09/2006 14:34

I have 5 so deffo the minority here!!!

3sEnough · 24/09/2006 21:06

I'm just so damn fashionable - it's the only reason I had a third!!! No seriously, my parents were visibly shocked and everso slightly disgusted at the thought of a no3 for me as we already had one of each (why do people think it's the only reason you'd want more?!!) They were right though - it was damn hard work as they were all under 4 1/2 and we now have even less money - great fun though and the third is hysterical..stroppier and much more sparky than 1 or 2. We ALL laugh at her antics which is really lovely.
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