Party invite - do you drop child or stay too?

[HereBeHubbubs]

6 year old invited to a vintage themed dressing up birthday party with classmates.

Previous party invites have all been playbarns.

Do I drop my child or have to stay too?

I can't get a text reply from the Mum.

At 6 I think it's ok to leave them, but I'd ask the mum on the day what she would prefer (or just take off to spend some valuable time by myself).

At 6 most parents leave.

What is a vintage themed dressing up party?!

Most parents stop around here, until child is about 7. I'm not sure why. I'd drop off an collect at 6, if I didn't feel so pressured to stay by judgey pants other parents.

Drop and go. Parents who stay drive me nuts. I feel like my interactions with their children are being monitored.

We had a party in a playbarn type place last year and a few parents hung around, one definitely to keep an eye on her child. I think it confuses the kids a bit as well.

Drop and run, that's my motto!

My sensible answer to your question is drop and go. But I really want to know what the jiggery is 'vintage' to a 6 year old? Shell suits?

Caveat, there is one child who is generally considered a 'troublemaker'.

His mum never stays and she should really, even just so she can find out/judge for herself what is going on and not be flapping about afterwards when her kid is all upset because the others "ganged up on him".

Here, at 3 all parents stay. At 4 almost all parents stay. At 5 most parents drop and run although some will stay. At 6 all parents drop and run (unless party is a long way from home and in the middle of nowhere, so that's impractical, or the parent has arranged to help out).

I'd usually drop at that age, although I find it depends what the party is. More parents stay when it's a swimming party, and DS1 has been to a couple where the parents clearly wanted at least some to stay. I usually ask what the parents prefer.

I took DS1 to a swimming party on Sunday and was going to leave him until they produced and nibbles for the grown ups so I stayed and had a matter with some of the other mums and watched DS1 instead.

I'm ok with parents staying if they are my friends, and I can chat with them, or if they have friends who are staying too and they chat among themselves.
Or... if they are willing to be hands on.

But a clue will be the food. You don't want to be taking food calculated only for the children in the party.

A natter, not a matter.

Thanks, everyone.

It's vintage themed as in dressing up in 40s or 50s style I suppose, with appropriate era hairdressing, makeup and accessories and a photo booth on offer.

I planned on jelly and ice cream and a bouncy castle for my child's 8th party