Nursery and night waking - am I being PFB?

[purplemurple1]

My one yr old started nursery last Monday and has started waking in the night. He has slept through (10hrs ish) from around 6 months, by which time he was established on solids. I think it may be hunger nursery say he eats well but yesterday for example from 8-4pm he had yogurt and bannana, yogurt and mango, bannana, pasta and chicken, and crackers. the other kids are 6months to 1yr older than him and none are spoon fed so not sure how much he actually eats. Plus it all seems a bit like diet food and not really filling to me but maybe normal food in a nursery.

The night waking also means he is much more tired in the day, so nursery are letting him nap twice a day (up to 3hrs total), when he would normally nap for 90min a day at. home, Which I think could be making things worse.

So is this just part of settling into nursery and expected or worth talking to the nursery and looking for a cause, and a solution. How would you tackle it?

Tell the nursery how long you want him to nap for and they should do as you ask. it could just be him missing you during the day so wants to see you at night, I'm sure once he gets used to being there he will settle down again.

Definitely put in writing the nap times and max nap length, otherwise will be sleeping too much in day and not enough at night. Include that you want them to wake him up when nap time is finished, not wait for him to wake naturally. You are not being pfb.

Agree it sounds like a lot of fruit and yoghurt but also there is chicken in there. Ask to see a menu for the week ahead and also ask to see how much they give in a portion. My little boy has always had a huge appetite and when he started nursery at 12mo I found out they were giving tiny portions. All the other babies were happy with these small bowls but I knew my lad needed more. I spoke to the nursery about this and they started serving his meals on the bigger plates they use for the pre school kids (ie 4yo!) and he was much happier!!

You can tell them the nap length, but it is normal for babies when they start nursery to have a few more night wakings because they miss mummy the first weeks/month...

In my case was also because she didn't like bottles (breastfed) so drank the minimum liquids and reverse cycled when I was with her... changing to a beaker was great.

I think in a month things should hopefully be settled enough, but in the meantime tell them not to let them sleep longer than the 90 minutes

Good luck

We always dictated nap times with our two - long naps are convenient for nursery staff but then mind would not sleep at night.

Thanks, think I will have a chat at pick up and tell them I'm worried about him waking, and being hungry.
I'll def check their portion sizes as well, he has always had a big appetite so it could be that simple. And I'll reiterate he doesn't need more than 90min and needs to be woken up. I've already stopped leaving any extra blankets as they over wrapped him and over heated him on the first day, but I guess all babies are different and they are learning his needs and ways.

I'm finding it hard not to be too controlling and over the top, about it all. Don't want to be known as that crazy parent, esp as we are in a small village so it will be hard to shake that label once I get it!

Put it in writing about the naps "having a chat" doesn't always get passed on to the right person.