how do i handle this????

[slightlyinsane]

We moved from Yorkshire to Scotland nearly 2 yrs ago. Moved to what we thought was a very small but nice village. We got it very wrong but that's a long story.

Anyway dd2 (6) was telling dh how one of the girls in her class was telling people how much she really really hates the "English" which upset her understandably. I will be going into school tomorrow to have a chat with their teacher about it. I'm really undecided if this girl really knows what she's saying or just repeating what she's heard at home as I know parents are very pro YES and like to tell everyone.

I have some serious stuff going on with the parents at the mo which puts them completely off limits to have a friendly little chat with them and have a niggling little thought that they're feeding their daughter things that will get at us. Part of the consequences of this is that my dd has taken an overly keen interest in the no side after asking all about it, now we know why,but wwe've had to have a chat about people being allowed their own opinions which aren't always the same as ours etc etc and how sometimes we have to becareful how we say things so we don't upset people if we don't agree with them.

What else can we do to help her over the next few wks??

Are her class doing anything on the referendum? Or the school? You can't really ignore it at the moment and little ones will be picking stuff up from home/tv etc. It might be a good excuse to discuss culture, diversity etc.
It sounds like you're doing the right thing talking about people having different opinions etc but your daughter may hear a lot of anti-English sentiment over the next few weeks (maybe not! Don't know where you are etc)...maybe you do need to discuss appropriate responses with her-- ones that don't feed further argument. Not easy for a 6 year old I know, but maybe essential at the moment.

Wow, liberal use of etc in my post, sorry :-)

Ha ha ha I like the use of etc it makes for quicker typing.
Had a chat with her teacher who chuckled about it. Erm I'm not finding it so funny thanks. The best she could offer me was having a word with my dd explaining she can tell them if she's upset. Onwards and up the food chain me thinks. Bet they wouldn't be laughing if we were technically foreign and not from across the border.

This sort of racism really bugs me, just as much as any other sort. I'd go back to the teacher and ask directly if the comments were I hate israelis/French/black people, would she brush it off so lightly? This child is making overtly racist comments and it should be stopped. I grew up on the english/Welsh border and this sort of racism was rife and awful. Unacceptable, just as it would be for I hate Scottish people to be said in schools here. Take it further OP.

It is unacceptable, and I'm sorry the teacher laughed. It should be taken seriously. what is happening is incredibly divisive... I can understand children picking up on it and using it, but teachers and other adults need to be helpful.

Your poor DD. I hate this kind of 'acceptable' xenophobia.

I'm Welsh, my ex was English raised initially in Scotland and then they moved to Wales. He and his brothers were very badly bullied for being English when they lived in Scotland. The teachers were as bad as the kids. I remember telling the story in a pub years ago and a friend of a friend said 'ha, serves him right'. Bitch. I must have given her a filthy look because she apologised straightway.

I'm so angry that this still goes on today, and that a teacher, who is supposed to be there to care for and nurture your DD, could find it funny

I am English and live in Scotland and there is a lot of anti English sentiment and racism here. I've been here 14 years and it has always been like this.