Violence on tv etc

[DXBMermaid]

So DH and I can't agree on this and I'd like to know what you think. He is currently watching Game of Thrones and I don't like that he does this while DD (15 months) is around. He loves watching his series on the weekend, but a lot of the things he watches contain a lot of voilence and sex. The sex I am not too worried about, it's the violence that I think DD shouldn't be watching. Often I take her out or into another room but she still sees some of it. Am I being all PFB or does watching stuff like that have a (negative) influence on her?

You're not being all PFB at all.

Can't he wait till she's in bed or down for a nap?

He doesn't want to. He says that she's fine, that she doesn't understand. I've tried to tell that she understand more then we think, that subconsiously she will have to deal with these emotions. He says that all of that is not true...

Of course she'll be picking up on some of it. I would be more worried about the sex over the violence as well. It's very inappropriate to allow a small child to see that. I don't understand why he can't wait till she's in bed or napping? There's plenty of time in the evening after her bed time presumably for him to watch what he wants.

I watched the first season but interest after the second season. Dh has read all the books & follows the tv series.

I personally think it's perverse & not suitable for the screen... it comes across as pornographically violent to me.

Yanbu at all, it's definitely not suitable viewing for a 15 month old... i'm pretty sure children are aware in somewhere of these sorts of things.

Personally I can't stand GOT. On the weekend, especially after a night out he likes to spend pretty much the whole day lying on the couch watching crappy series. Ihave tried to get him to not do this, but he just refuses. His excuse is that he works hard and this is how he likes to relax. Basically if I don't want her to watch something then my best bet is to take her out.

I'm wondering if any research has been done on this? Perhaps if there was scientific evidence he might change his mind.

In my personal opinion watching sex is less harming at this age, mainly because it usually isn't so agressive and the scenes aren't as loud or as long as all these battle scenes. However it does totally depend on the actual scene as there are some sex scenes that especially in GOT that go way too far and that I really don't even want to watch myself.

Does he usually dismiss your concerns so completely? Why should you have to take your DD out just to avoid her seeing inappropriate TV! That's ridiculous.

You shouldn't have to provide scientific evidence for him to take your view point seriously and respectfully.

If he doesn't want to engage with you and your DD on his "rest day", can he put a TV in another room and watch it there?

This seems to be something he won't budge on... He just doesn't see the problem.

You know, the NSPCC definition of sexual abuse includes allowing children to view images of sexual activity. Now GOT is not actually classed as pornography, and any sexual acts are going to be simulated not real. But still, it's a bit too close for comfort in my opinion.

If he really won't compromise on this, then maybe you should take him at his word and leave the house for the day, every day, until he gets the hint. Can you go round to a relatives house?

Maybe he might realise that he's missing out on quality time with you and your daughter if you took him at his word.