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How would you take this?

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Millionairerow · 03/09/2014 18:52

Ds been friends with my friends dd since they were babies, boy and girl. My son has always said this girl was his best friend, and when I had my dd3, my friend said shed my son each week after nursery one day a week. I offered take dd on a number of occasions until it was evident she was looking after another little girl on the same estate. Eventually lots of excuses ensued and she stopped the Mondays but she still looked after other little girl. They still had the odd play dates but latterly lots of excuses. Friend was happy when not only my ds and dd were not in the same class as she wanted her to spread her sings (fair enough). She was equally glad her other wee friend wasn't in the same class but being on same estate they still play together. My son still says he plays with this girl but for the first time, she has not invited ds to her dds party saying she was just having a few girlfriends, no boys, except a male cousin. They are born around the same town so their parties on same day. My ds invited her dd but she's not coming. Normally my dh is usually level headed about these things but even he is saying its a bit strange. My ds is not bothered so that's not the issue... Just know there is a message there (friend said it was her dd who didn't want him there) but I feel a bit rejected though she still is friendly with me etc. can't help feel its a snub ....

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CultureSucksDownWords · 04/09/2014 01:48

It's not a snub. The friend's DD is allowed to fall out of being friends with people. Just because you and her mum are friends doesn't mean that your children have to be friends for life.

You don't say how old these children are, but it could well be that as they are getting older, they are becoming more different and have less in common. The difference in gender is probably exacerbating this effect.

Continue to be friendly with the mum, and just chalk it up to one of those things that happen as children grow and change.

SavoyCabbage · 04/09/2014 01:57

I would just take it as a part of life. The two children were probably friends because of convenience and now they are older and their circle is widening they are finding more in common with other people.

Heyho111 · 04/09/2014 06:22

It is an issue time and time again where friends feel obliged to invite their friends child to play /party etc.
children move on with friendships. They change and evolve.
I shared school run lifts with a friend. When we arranged it I said straight. This does not mean our two have to invite the other to parties and play dates when they have friends over. It made life a lot easier.
Try to keep your friendship and the kids friendship seperate.
It must have been hard for your friend not to invite him.

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Millionairerow · 06/09/2014 21:13

Thx for the replies. Still not sure how to take it. Ds had his party and 3 of the girls went onto the other. Mother of one said is your ds off to x's party now. I said no and she said I'm shocked. The group,of friends have known each other so long. Can't help but feel annoyedbutnthx all.

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