Not enjoying this

[MATB1]

DD1 is 2.8, DD2 is 5 weeks.

I'm not loving this. I don't think I'm cut out for it.

With dd1 it was frustrating to be stuck on the sofa feeding or battling with no naps but I was elated... This time those things are just driving me to despair.

Everyone says your second baby is more relaxed.. Well dd2 isn't. We've had fussy evenings for a couple of weeks and she's fussed from 11-2 today.

It took forever to get us out and now the fucking thing on the car is telling me a tyre is flat. So I've driven home and I'd left the front door open.

I can't bear to go back in the house. It's a shit tip and would feel like ultimate defeat given how long it took to get out the door in the first place.

I guess I forgot about this newborn bit. Hopefully this is just a bad day but man I'm not loving this at all. There's no elation this time around. Sure, dd2 is lovely, but it feels more frustrating than anything else.

You don't have to tell people you have PND if you don't want to. I never did. I told a few people but even my parents and in-laws didn't know. I only told MIL (we're v close) because she found my tablets one day and asked what they were for.

Newborns are hard work. I'll echo whoever said up-thread about everyone being fed. Anything else is just a bonus. It WILL get easier, I promise.

It's lovely to hear it will get easier and I can remember with dd1 that it does all ease off and you find your stride and aren't so restricted etc.

The thing that I keep thinking though is that I think the real fun starts after they are about 15-18 months and I'll be back at work then....

Some people make it all look so easy!!! And actually for the most part it's all been ok but today just broke me.

Fabulous tips on here and I love the look of those double trailer things!! Getting out is absolutely key - if we're not dressed by 10ish it feels like we never will get out.

I've got my 6 week post natal check soon so if I'm feeling low still then I'll see about getting assessed for pnd. I hadn't thought about not telling anyone.... Can you take anti-d's if breastfeeding?

The plus point of dd2 being fractious today is that she's slept like a log all afternoon only waking for long lovely feeds rather than fussy snacking.