is this normal for a c section

[frankiebuns]

I had a c section on monday came home thursday and tbh bit a bit emotional as pwe previous posds i had pnd with ds 4 years ago and refused to admit it much to everyones annoyance im strong willed i dnt give easily. So i steeled myself this time for how can it happen again im not going to feel like this ever etc but i feel it creeping in i feel like im a surrogate mum im looking after her going thfough the motions etc till her mum and dad come and collect her and i go bsck to normal life me my dh and ds go home and school runs etc but i felt like this after ds and mourned my previous life as me and dh loved being a couple and going oit on a whim doing what we wanted. But i grew into family life but its . But i dnt feel to cryey i do feel like she isnt mine and im not going there again. Mum said she had heard alot of mums who had c section they felt like that. Is it true or is it pnd. Im going to drs tuesday but wanted mums netters ideas

I suspect it is quite common, just learning to adjust and bond with your baby.

I remember after a couple of days back at home with my dd thinking how strange it was that no one 'official' had come knocking to take the baby back, as surely it was all a big mistake and they wouldn't let me just keep her.

Five days if I remember correctly is THE big hormone dip/rush post birth. I remember feeling horrendous both times. I didn't go on to have pnd so you may not necessarily be heading that way again but it's important to be honest ?ith Thr doctor on Tuesday.

A new baby is such an upheaval I imagine it would all seem surreal without the hormones going on.

I think the CS thing is a red herring, it's that old thing about not having given birth "properly" and I don't think it matters really.

I had a cs and definitely felt like someone was going to thank me for looking after her but they would take over now! I must admit I assumed it was a first baby thing rather than a cs thing? Prob took about 10 days to feel like she was mine.

Thanku, I was sat on the sofa and even thought about the impossible of adoption, like getting rid of the clothes etc that I wouldn't mind really go back to my house where nothings changed and be the trio I love and know. I also think I dnt doo babies well and love kids around the age of 2 upwards.

Frankie - congratulations on the birth of your new baby.

I had an emergency section and for a long time didn't feel like my little man was mine. I just felt like I was handed a baby to look after. He is my first so can't compare births. He's 4 months now and I couldn't love him more. It just took me a while to adjust to him! Give yourself time.

Yes, totally normal. I remember sobbing to my health visitor that dd didn't feel like she was mine because I didn't see her being born (also c-section). It was the baby blues but it felt so real. Do speak to your hv or gp.

congratulations on your new baby

It took me several weeks to bond with dd and I very much felt like I was going through the motions (and also looking after 3 yo ds). She was born by crash c section Ruth me under GA, and I have often wondered if this was the cause of me not bonding with her. With ds - 3 yrs previously - it was an instant surge of love. He was c section too, emergency, but I was conscious.