It's happening already...!

[susannahmoodie]

So my dcs are 3 and 1, and I've kind of accepted that I've had to put up with eye rolling type comments from the 'older generation' my milabout they way we do things eg people not being able to understand waiting til 6mo to wean, sleeping in our room til 6mo, ebf, etc etc, making out as if I'm terribly precious and new fangled as if I'm just mindlessly doing as I'm told.

I've sometimes wondered how Ill feel when if, in a few years time the advice changes again and I realise I've done it all wrong.

Anyway my friend is due her 2nd ds soon and she text asking how best to prepare her dd for becoming a big sister. She mentioned that the Hv had told her to ensure she wasn't holding the new baby when dd meets them for the first time...

Hence me making a lot of sarcastic remarks to dh along the lines of 'well clearly I've condemned mine to a lifetime of sibling rivalry/jealousy as I'm sure I was holding ds2 when ds1 met him....'

I'm turning into mil aren't I?

I have the same with my MIL and older generations on my DHs side.

No MIL, i will not put a rusk in her milk at 4 months old. Nor will i stop sleeping in her room until she is 6 months old. I will also not take her swimming with bad eczema.

Oh, and the reason why she is crying is that she's either a) hungry or b) tired....she is not crying because she is having a 'tantrum' or 'angry'...she's 4 months old!

I just nod and agree with whatever they say then go home and do whatever i want. It's just easier that way.

Everyone has their opinions, people in the end will choose to follow the advice that they feel is best for their situation.

You are and we all we because when someone tells you that actually what you done with your child was wrong/dangerous you will bite back with well look at them now they are just fine. I think we should all remember one day it will be our daughters and daughter in laws judging us for all the shocking things we did with our children that the would never do.

Next time the older generation tell you your being precious remember what they hear is a criticism of their own mothering and are upset and defensive at it be kind to them and say who knows what's the right thing but we both done our best.

Off topic, but I saw some cut little brother / little sister newborn vests for the new arrival which I thought was a genius idea.

Cute not cut