what have i done! mummy wobbles

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Ok, i had dd 3 days ago i came home today and it suddenly hit me what have i done! My ds is 4 in 2 weeks and tbh i have made this summer great with him and i came home and saw a picture on his wall of me and him and it suddenly hit me what have i done! It sounds awful to ppl who cant have kids but i miss me and my son time ive been off sick most of this pregnancy and have spent all my time with my son making this summer one to remember and tbh it hurts that im not goinv to get it back. My dh is a only child and he was all for nof havinv another and i got to about 8 months and was very much in agreeance yep prob hormones talking but i feel awful. My son has takrn it in his stride which for an aspergers kid is smazing he came to c me and wanted to know if j was coming with him to have tea at nannys house i said no i had to stay in hospital anf hecwaved bye bye to me through the door i sat and howled as i wanted him back! Sorry for emotional rant but please tell me its normal and ill be back to myself in a few days currently a crying wreck in the lounge

Day 3 is often a blub fest.

DS3 is 6 days old and I cried for an hr on day 3 because I didn't want to have the fragmin injection.

You will almost certainly feel better tomorrow.

Congrats on your DD

Calm down - your son will benefit soooo much from his sibling and your wobbles are normal. I have 6 years between my two and spent a lot of the first two thinking : what have I done????!!! But they adore each other and both benefit from having each other. Yes they fight and I don't have as much one on one time with my elder (or younger) but they play together and we are more family and child focused with two children. Deep breaths - all will be fine!! (Congratulations)

Of course it is normal to have wobbles. But in answer to "what have I done?" you have given him a little sister who will look up to him and make him feel like the most special person in the world when he takes her to school on the first day, or holds her hand, or gives her a cuddle when she has fallen over.

In the meantime, you can tell big brother that his little sister won't be much use yet, she will be eating, and sleeping a lot, and as soon as she dozes off, you and he can cuddle up on the settee with a book/a DVD/the lego/ice cream/whatever floats your boat, and have special you time then too.

It is exhausting but you can make bonfire night/Christmas/birthdays/next summer a summer to remember too - just strap the little one into a sling, head off for the zoo/the park/the beach and have fun together.

HTH

I always, always wanted a big brother. It was one thing I couldn't have!

So you've done a great thing :) DS will never remember not having a sister.

Thankyou i wemf round my parents mum took ds to get something random on the bus and i blubbed my heart out yo my brothwr which i can assure you is a rarity. Ive just looked at your replys on the loo
As only me time i get and i crumbled! Dd is very clingy and hold me so 1-2-1 is very hard! Im a fool to think i could cope or could hit the ground running with 2 but im an emotional wreck and tbh i cant cope son is being boistrous at the mo!

DONT PANIC

Try not to stress it's the hormones talking. There are many many delightful advantages to two children, but at the mo you can't see them because your body is being flooded with v unhelpful hormones.

Just remember it's like pmt x100, all your worries will fade.

Hiya hormone update. Dh back at work as its a new job and im missing hkm after talking to my mum about the good old days etc i feel better but still emotional im getti g there think id love givinv biryh to a 6 month old orvyear oldbor even 4 yesr old

Hmm I don't think I'd want to give birth to a 6 month old, they grow a LOT in those first 6 months

Hiya hormone update. Dh back at work as its a new job and im missing hkm after talking to my mum about the good old days etc i feel better but still emotional im getti g there think id love givinv biryh to a 6 month old orvyear oldbor even 4 yesr old