11 year old boy being tricky

[marymary1000]

Hi not been on here for very long time but could do with much needed gentle advice please.

I have only child ds who is 11 & starts secondary in September.

Currently having real issues with behaviour mainly aggressive arguing back, cannot control his emotions especially @ sport, generally just pretty miserable with a doesn't give a shit attitude.

An example is that dh runs his cricket team, if he's out he looses it whether in practice or a game, he answers back on decisions to the extent that DH sent him off last week (I didn't even know you could do that in cricket!, he comments out loud on other peoples performances and is negative and slumpy shouldered.

We have banned him from having lessons until he can get himself under control but whilst he's in the throes of a 'tantrum' there's just no talking to him.

Is this hormones, rubbish behaviour, normal. Are we being too soft?.

He likes his tv has an xbox which he rarely plays, loves football drama cricket

I am exhausted with trying to get him to see that things don't need to be this challenging, and am at a loss in how to deal with everything.

Experienced answers welcomed .

DS1 is possibly going to start secondary school a year early next year. Since we've discussed this with him, he's been hanging out with the older kids and caring much more about looks, clothes and his mood has changed considerably. He looks older than he is as he's already 5"0, and I know he fits in great with the boys in the year above. I've had a talk with him and he told me that he's going to secondary school next year and he 'needs to grow up'.

marymary how is he generally? Is his eating and sleep ok? What happens when the tantrum ends? Are you able to talk about his behaviour and how it affects the other people present and how his negative comments make his fiends at cricket feel.

DS has one player in his cricket team and is very ambitious, wants to play for England, but does get frustrated with team members and makes negative comments. He is immediately pulled up on it by the coaches or any adult who hears him.