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Struggling with speaking in my mother tongue to my baby

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redglasses · 15/08/2014 19:06

My DS is 6 months old and from day 1, I have struggled to speak to him in my mother tongue. I have lived in the UK for 10 years now and find it easier to communicate in English. My DP and DSD both only speak English, so when we are all together I speak English to DS as otherwise I feel they cannot participate in the conversation.
When I am on my own with DS I try to speak my mother tongue but it feels so very, very unnatural. I am trying to speak in my mother tongue to DS for my parents' sake. Their English is ok, but they can express themselves better in our mother tongue. When I communicate to them, I don't have any problems with the language..
The main problem is that when I'm on my own with DS, I end up not saying much at all as I don't know what to say in my mother tongue and don't feel like I'm aloud to speak in English..
Does anyone have any experience or advice with this? Will my DS pick up my mother tongue even from the very little exposure?

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cloudjumper · 12/09/2014 09:04

Yes, I try to do OPOL wen it's just the 3 of us - regardless whether DH understands what I'm saying to DS or not. However, he doesn't speak any German , so I still have to switch languages when I want to talk to him.

Who would have thought that this would be so hard! I used to be very dismissive of my dad (Hungarian) who did not speak his language with us when we were young, but I now understand why. It's such hard work!

redexpat · 16/09/2014 19:12

Can you

read aloud? When dd arrives shell be treated to the complete works of shakespeare.

internet radio - find a station from your own country.

dvds and cds from your home country.

slightlyglitterstained · 16/09/2014 20:42

Actually just reading grown up reading matter aloud sounds like it could work well - maybe I'll put a book on my Kindle & try reading aloud to DS next bedtime Grin

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FrauEnglischLehrerin · 18/09/2014 13:32

I've been in Germany for 14 years and have had phases where my English started to get rusty/unnatural. I think exposure to plenty of your native tongue is key - I only watch British tv, read English-language books, listen to Radio 4 (other than in the car) post on Mumsnet rather than rabenmutter.de...

When dd was a baby I did the narration thing a lot, especially when getting her dressed/washed/changed. It's a fairly limited script at six months, when you think about it, so switching it to another language shouldn't be that hard really.

As for switching back and forth between languages, it becomes automatic with a bit of practice. I went to a party last weekend hosted by a local Indian family - people there were speaking a regional Indian language, English to us and the Indians who came from a different region, and German to the token German couple.

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