What's harder - going from 0-1 or 1-2 children?

[milkyman]

Feeling nervous about second

0-1. Definitely. Mine have a gap of 2.4. My first child did spend quite a bit of time being looked after by Cbeebies in the first few months but once we'd got a routine sorted out it was fine.
Does depend a bit on how easy your first baby was and how easy they are as toddlers.

1-2 definitely.

I'd heard so many stories about being a new parent that even though dd1 was really hard work (reflux/colic) it was about what I expected.
Because I'd hard such a hard early few months with dd1 I thought my second would be fine and I'd breeze through..

WHY DID NO ONE WARN ME!!!!!

I was really shocked! I found 2 more than double the work of one!

0-1 was harder for me.

Having now read the thread I am sorry for my scaremongering.

milkyman mine are only 18 months apart and my dh had leave with the first and not with the second.Plus my recovery from my second cs was harder than the first.

If I was asked if I would do it again -the answer would be 'yes' in the blink of an eye.

Erm.. Dd is 18mo and ds 8days.. No idea what's harder yet but so far? 0-1 was horrific compared to this, the sheer panic that takes up so much time and energy with your first just isnt there with your second!

Thanks all feeling a biy better now!

0-1 by a mile! 2.5 yr age gap

0-1.

Number 2 was not all that mcg more difficult (2.5 yr gap).

0-1 without a doubt. I have a 20 month old and a 1 month old. It isn't that bad :) wee bit of lack of sleep but you expect that with a newborn anyway

I'm sat with DS2 (11wks) on my lap and it's best decision we ever made. He sleeps, we are so much more relaxed, it's been so easy I keep looking back at the fuss we made at having DS1 and I'm !

Definitely do it....it's making me consider a third which was never on the cards

0-1

First time round was hellish, second time round nothing has really changed, just another small person in the house. DC1 changed every aspect of my life, and although much was positive, some thing were a huge struggle.

1-2

my first child was lovely when it was just us, she was text book, did everything on time, good natured etc. but, wasn't one of those that "loved the baby" and/or "was such a help". She was jealous. It was really tough. I feel unusual though. Everybody else told me how sweet their first child was, how helpful, how much she loved the baby............... she became less sweet when the baby came. so, don't go by my story.

1-2 for us . dd was the easiest baby , slept through 9-9 from only 3 weeks old . could take her anywhere and she would sleep and be happy . even on a 5 hour flight at 5 months . ds ... whole different story . reflux , won't have a bottle unless it's in a quiet room , didn't sleep through until 4 months and at 6 months is now waking 6 times a night

0-1 was hard because everything was such a shock!

0-2 was so easy. BUT I have a 4 year gap between 1 and 2 so maybe that's why.

Would a 2.5 age gap be manageable. Feeling strangely depressed being pregnant. Terrible time with first baby.

1-2 was the hardest. Really really hard. I'd a physical illness related to pregnancy and crashing pnd.

2-3 was a doddle. Dh still sometimes forgets we have 3 (any 2 will do!) and they're 10, 12 and 14!

I found 1-2 hard but only for the first few months. There was a 26 month gap. I think it was to do with multi tasking and feeling stretched, both wanting attention at the same time. 2-3 however was a breeze

0-1 SO much harder.

I had terrible PND and was in complete shock about how much my life had changed. Swore there would be no more babies.

Fell pregnant when DS was 2.1.

Best thing I ever did! DS2 is not an easy baby but I have found the whole thing loads easier. No PND. I am actually enjoying it this time!

For us it was definitely 0-1. 1-2 was (almost) a doddle. However DC1 was particularly hard work in her first year whereas DC2 has been very easy by our standards! He was mostly asleep the first three months.

P.s 18 months between my two. DC2 wasn't planned at all so wasn't excessively overjoyed to find out I was pregnant again. I was absolutely expecting the worst but it's been great so far!

0-1 was definitely so much harder than 1-2. I found it all much easier and lots more fun. I am just hoping it is easier going from 2-3 this time round!