Children's parties

[helsy]

Has anyone ever asked a parent of a child having A birthday party why their child hasn't been invited?
For the third year running, my dd (6) is the only child in the class not to be invited to the party of a boy who's mum is very pleasant to me at the school gate, and I want to ask her why dd1 isn't invited! Dd1 isn't keen on him as it happens, but if she ever has parties where the whole class is invited I wouldn't dream of leaving out just one child. So, do I ask, or take the advice I give my daughter and ignore it -he's no loss?

si is the whole class actually going?
does her child 'get on' with yours?

could be that he hasnt invited everyone just his good friends and they may also hate eachother ina friendly kind way!

ask one of theother moms.

I think it is quite harsh to invite all the class apart from one and I would not allow it. DD is ahving her party next week and wanted all of the children bar a few and I amde it clear that it was a few friends or the whole class.

I was once stopped by a mother in town who wanted to know why her dd wasn't invited to dd party, and to be honest it was an oversight as hmy dd was still at nursery and hers had started primary so I wasn't offended and her dd came and bought a gorgeus gift. But the mother did klnow me quite well and I think she knew that there was no malice intended. If you knew the mum well I may ask her, although I would imagine that if you knew the mum well that your dd would be invited. You could just causually ask about the party and see if that provokes an invite. Otherwise I would just forget about it. But not a nice situation, quite thoughtless IMO.

StitchtheCrafter good advice ask a mum you kow and have quite a relaxed relationship with

I would want to know why too I think -curiousity would get the beter of me. However I'm not sure I would have the guts to ask. Maybe ask another Mum you get on with if she knows, if not she could ask the Mum in question directly?

I would just keep well away tbh.
You only have to look at all the wedding threads on here to know that you can't always invite everyone to everything and your DD might as well learn that now as anytime.
Sorry if that sounds harsh

But why invite every child bar one, if you ahve the money to invite all the rest of the class one more makes no difference. In my onw case we as we have ended up having to invite 40 children as there are 31 indd class we have not invited children dd knows from outside of school - and I ahve explained why to the parents concerned to avoid kids in dd class feeling left out.

Thanks for the replies. There are actually TWO boys in the class who don't invite dd1 to their parties, but I think one of them doesn't invite everyone, although all of dd1's friends seem to go.
When dd1 had a very small party last year we invited 6 people, but the three years before that we'd had really big parties and invited all of her nursery class/school class. She's actually fairly thick skinned, but it galls me to see both these boys' parents handing out invites and people coming in with presents and dd1 is left out. I may well approach one of the parents.