How many accidents are normal when starting potty training?

[fossybear]

Hi, my dd is 2yrs 3mths (my first child)and I started potty training her yesterday. I'm sure she understands what the potty is for - we have been discussing it for a while and she's seen her cousin using one. She did 3 wees and 1 poo in her pants with no real attempt to get to the potty, and she's never told me she needs a wee/poo. My dh thinks I should stick with it but I think maybe shes not ready? When a child's ready are they quite eager to use the potty and do they tell you when they need to go? I don't want stress or a battle and am happy to wait a bit longer if needed. Has anyone had a similar child and what did you do? Any advice / experiences welcome, thanks

Sounds like she's not ready to me. My DD is a few months older and nowhere near ready yet. We're waiting. I think it must be much harder if child not fully ready.

Doesn't seem ready. I just nearly finished my daughter and we didn't start till she was 2y 5m. We have had now 10 accident free days...

I would wait a month or two. Ask her if she wants pants or nappies.
And we cracked wee long before poo...

I left DD1 till she was getting on for three...and she got it in a weekend. I really would recommend hanging on!

I would also say she doesn't sound like she's ready. I went with waiting until my ds told me he was going in his nappy, then tried him on the potty and it worked pretty much instantly for wees but like TinyTear poos took a bit longer. What I found at the beginning was that there were lots of false alarms where he thought he needed a wee but didn't, so I just let him sit on the potty anyway. That lasted maybe a couple of days and the childminder was happy to do that with him as well. By day two he was reliably dry and by day four had cracked the poo thing as well, (he did do poos in the potty for the first three days, but also had one poo accident a day during them). So it really was a relatively quick process. I think, from looking at my friends who started their kids too early, they all had a lot more accidents and it became a much more prolonged and drawn-out affair, with all of the hassles (having a change of clothes at all times when out and about etc) that brings.

I've potty trained loads of kids as a nanny, including my own. I always give it a week. They often have loads of accidents just as you describe at first. The key is are they progressing. By day 7 I would expect a fully potty trained child that asks to go to the toliet and only had very occasional accidents. This is what happens if child is ready. If their not ready they will still be having regular accidents and still needing constant asking and taking to potty.
I'd give it a week. Sometimes it takes a few horrendous days for them to 'get it' so I wouldn't give up straight away. Good luck

My ds was just over 2 when he said he wanted to wear pants, I thought he was too young but didnt want to discourage him if he was interested so we gave it a try. 5 days, zero wees or poos on potty and many, many accidents later, I'd had enough of cleaning up the mess & knew for sure he wasn't ready.

So we waited a few months & noticed he was staying dry for several hours at a time, & was telling us when he went, so we decided to try again. Repeat of the first attempt - he still wasn't ready. I got a bit frustrated the second time but knew it wasn't worth pushing.

At 2 years 9 months he suddenly announced he wanted to do a wee on the potty, took himself off & he did it. We put him straight into pants & within a couple of days he was dry - all wees were on the potty & we had very few accidents.

Poo was a different story - it took about another 6-8 weeks before he mastered it.

I'd def recommend waiting til later/til she instigates it too.

Wait. When they are ready it only takes a few days