I can't take dd shopping without her winging for something.

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She is 6. I love to buy her treats when it is my idea and I am good at saying no to constant demands for stuff but I can't even walk into Tescos without her winging at me to buy her stuff. Any ideas how I can stop this?

Maybe a bit late to start, don't know, we've always done it, but my two respond quite well to the 'sorry darling, it's not on the list' (repeat to fade) tactic.

I will do it. Trouble is granny caves in.

Don't give in - just say no, it's too expensive, you had a treat yesterday or whatever.

Alternatively start giving her a small amount of pocket money (50p a week or whatever you feel appropriate) and explain that is all she will be getting for the week and let her learn to budget. We did that with our DS and he soon learned it was better to save it up in his bank account - now in his teens he has accrued quite a lot of dosh with birthday and christmas presents as well.

Do stand firm though - I know quite a few brats children who assume going shopping means a treat every time.

Don't go shopping with granny then - or ask her to set up a savings account for your DD - my parents have done this .

Yes, sounds like you need to have a strong word with Granny.

I'm afraid you just have to grit your teeth and stand firm.

My DC's dad spoils them and always buys them something when they go to the supermarket. because he is lazy and wants an easy life

That gives me double whammy when I take them because I won't let them have anything AND 'daddy always lets us' which means I am the 'mean' parent.
I still stick to my guns and get them involved in the shopping instead, so get them to help me pick stuff off the shelves and choose which breakfast cereal to get etc so they feel like they're getting a say in things.
I also let the two older ones sit in the photo booth when I'm checking everything out which might annoy some other people but I don't think it does any harm!

I think children can learn that granny lets them have treats but mum doesn't.

What does she ask for? If it's those crappy magazines with 'free' gifts, I solved this by giving DD £3 pocket money a week. This was enough for a magazine or a cheaper mag and a Kinder Egg. Any other time she whinged, I just pointed out that she'd already had her budget for that week and that was that. Basically, set a budget and stick to it and make sure it is totally affordable, whether that's 20p or a fiver. Granny treats are her money and her business. And keep pointing out that if she saves it, she can have something better next week. It does eventually sink in, I promise.

She needs to learn granny may have extra money to buy her things but mummy does not my 2 are the same want want want but they know I don't have money to spend to tend to stop fairly quickly. I have in the past told the oldest (7) if she wants to sell her other toys (the mountain bought by GP that never gets touched) she can then use the money for new toys but I am here to buy her food and clothing not to buy toys on demand.

I usually head them off before we get in the shop and tell them I don't have money for things today. Ds is the worst and when he asked for stuff I'd tell him he doesn't just get things for the sake of it but maybe he could ask father Christmas or his birthday. Now he looks at stuff and says maybe he'll ask father Christmas etc.