DS1 cavalier with DS2...

[BusyCee]

...I was going to say bullying, but it doesn't seem to be malicious a forethought, he just doesn't seem to see DS2 as a separate person. So if I look at an average day from DS2s perspective, there's shoving, knocking over, taking toys away, throwing things at him. All perfectly normal, no doubt, but I'm so sick of saying 'be careful with your brother' 'you've hurt your brother,, stop it' etc etc. I'm trying not to let it become a 'thing', to allow them to form their own relationship without me forcing it or making it competitive, but I just think about poor DS2 (who actually isn't showing any major adverse effects) crying because someone knocked him over 10 times a day.

Any clever ways to help Ds1 get that he could be more kind? Or is it just boys and brothers and I need to just let it play out?

Oh. DS1 is 3.9 and DS2 is just 1

It's a tricky one. My ds1 (4.5) is the same with ds2 (1). I do a lot of telling off but it's counter productive because he clearly does it for attention/out of jealousy. I listened to him with him this morning (unusually sharing a room as we're on holiday) through the wall and he was lovely and gentle.

So no advice but I'm going to try cutting back on the constant berating and only intervene when there is a risk of serious injury! This too will pass (by the time they're in their 20's)!