Hello everybody I hope you are all well.
Just to start, Im not sure where this should of been posted. I do know ive received a lot of excellent of advice of the people on this forum before however.
I'm going through a bit of a complicated time at the moment. Basically the ex girlfriend gave birth to our first child 6 weeks ago. We split up whilst she was pregnant. I'll say the reasons for the break up were stress of pregnany and I always kinda knew it wasn't 100% the end. We got back together finally last week and I was so made up! I was extremely excited, happy and we was a family again! Then a few days later I told her about a girl I had been talking to whilst we had been split up. (we had only been talking and we did arrange to go out but when the day came around, I just didn't contact her) Anyway my ex flipped! I explained that I had been single for months, she drilled it into me almost every day saying it is over for good and she even told me she no longer loved me. So how can she cause world war 3 because I had been speaking to a girl? I know she has been speaking to at least one guy. She claims he was messaging her and she never replied but I'm pretty certain this is a lie.
Now it's all over again (FFS!)
She has it into her head that im not committed to her and I want to be some guy that's always chasing girls. I don't want to be settled down with her and the baby. She couldn't be more wrong! I'm nearly 29. My days of being mesed around in relationships, parting, going out on the pull are all over. I want my family 100% and I would like another baby in 3/4 years as would the ex. I love her unconditionally and she is my best friend. I know she cares about me a lot and loves me too! She is just silly and probably a bit insecure. I have told her all this but she is a really stubborn girl and it always takes her a very long time to come around. She says im filling her head with rubbish when im actually not. If I wasn't happy with her and being a family, believe me i definitely wouldn't be chasing her trying to live that life. If I wasn't happy with her then i would walk away as opposed to being with someone that makes you unhappy for the rest of my life.
I just don't know what to do. As I said she is a very stubborn girl.
I've even thought about proposing to show her how much I'm committed to her!
It's just so upsetting and at the same time frustrating! I had her back! I would go to the toilet in work, lock the door and fist pump the air i was that happy and excited! Back together with the girl i love and me and her and our baby all together :)
Do I just give her space and allow her time to come around? She caused world war 3 over this and even said to leave her and the baby alone and if i do want to see the baby im to go through court! Today is her birthday and I had bought her a few bits, a card from me and a card from baby and she text me yesterday telling me not to bother sending anything. At this moment in time I havent bothered with her since Sunday.
Help Mum's ... Please
Tell me what to do, be as harsh as you like.