How to deal with useless ex? (Father to my DDs)

[4littleones]

I'm seriously at the end of my tether with the ex. I'm aat here in tears yet again on a day he has them. im fed up with it.

is there anything I can do? he wouldn't harm them, so im guessing there is nothing I can do? he does however feed them shit, let them run wild, has taken them out numerous times in incorrect car seats, messes me around constantly with time, causes endless amounts of pointless problems etc. im just sick of it.

he is taking them on holiday in 2 weeks with his family and I'm massively regretting agreeing to it.

he seems to think he can do whatever he wants. he has them twice a month MAX for one day, despite living 5 mins away (his choice although I am glad he doesnt have them more).

my biggest mistake of my life was having children with a looser. not that I dont love the kids to bits and wouldn't change them for the world. But my current partner and father of my boys is just amazing and makes me feel awful that the girls are stuck with a looser of a dad for the rest of their lives.

turns out you can legally put a child over 3 in a car with no child seat, if the child seat won't fit in the car.

therefore I haven't phoned the police as technically he has done nothing wrong.

I have no idea what to do about the holiday

I thought it was only in case of an emergency? Not a regular thing?
However I may be wrong. My dc are similar ages to yours and I would go bat shit

That's what I thought but apparently not provided they are over 3.
I don't know what to do about the holiday

Can't you phone the non-emergency police number and ask them about whether it's illegal? I thought that even over 3 years old it still had to be an unexpected emergency, necessary and a short distance as per this explanation.

I still think you should tell them that he has in the past not used the correct child seats as reported by your children. Even if they just take the information and put it on file.

culture - on that link it says a child over 3 can sit on the back seat with an adult child restraint if there is no space for a 3rd seat

But you've said that there are other occasions when he has transported them without the correct car seats - presumably not always with 3 children in the back?

Anyway, I'm sorry your Ex is so stupid as to take a risk for the sake of being lazy :-( I think you're right to stop them going on holiday with him due to the lack of supervision, possible drunk driving etc.

Hi there

How did this situation pan out in the end for you and your girls?

I could have written this post about my ex. (Lies constantly, lives with mum at 48 yo, gets my son to lie to me, car seat issue and food and doesn’t make my son wash or brush his teeth when he’s there :-( )