Party advice needed please

[tiger66]

My ds (5) has been invited to a little girl's birthday party in his class. The party is tomorrow and we had said he would like to go, however today the little girl has told ds that she doesn't want him to come as it is a girls only party. He came home upset and bewildered. He says he doesn't want to go if she doesn't want him to be there which I don't blame him. Do I make excuses about him suddenly not being able to go or address the issue with the Mum re her daughter saying this? I get on pretty well with her Mum but not quite sure how to deal with it! Please help advise

5yr old girls can be very fickle. Are any of his friends going?

I would probably try to talk him into 'going for a bit' as it's so last minute, but stay. Hopefully all will be well, but if he's hating it, you can leave early.

He's not sure if any other boys have been invited and I feel difficult asking around in case they haven't and I don't want to create upset that other children haven't been invited.

Maybe give the mum a ring and say ds is a bit worried he'll be the only boy. Hopefully then she'll confirm which, if any, other boys are going.

If he's the only one, you could explain how he feels about being the only one, and would her daughter be very upset if he didn't come? Send the present along anyway.

I wouldn't mention that her dd has said she doesn't want him there.