has anyone ever given up trying to potty train a 3.10yo?

[Rosieglow]

Because I think I may be the first. DS refuses to do poos in the potty or toilet. He'll do wees in the toilet with persausion but doesn't say he needs to go himself so if we don't nag him to go he wets himself (3 accidents today).

He's been wearing pants for 4 months - that's a lot of pooy pants to wash out.

He's adament he's not going to use the toilet & we can't make him so what now? I'm tempted to just put him back in nappies and tell him to tell us when he's ready.

Has anyone ever done this? Any potty training gurus out there? Someone tell me what to do please...

Don't know anything really myself but there were some topics on this a while ago that I don't know if you have seen. The bottom one is particularly useful I think. HTH

here

here

and here

Thanks - I'll have a look at these now.

you arent trying hard enough

theres a travl ldge in warminster

watch otufor hte speed cameras

this one as well

cod - are you on the right thread?? But since you're here - any advice?

My ds was 3y10m when we finally got him to poo on the potty.

Dh used the ping pong ball trick to get him to pee - a pin gpong ball floats but you can aim at it!! Lasted abotu 3 months but very much worth it - he couldnt wait to pee in the loo!!

Could your ds be holding the poo in? My ds got an anal fissure from holding it in and it has caused a lot of probs with constipation adn he is still on a high fibre diet and senokot to keep him regular.

Wanted to let you know you are not the only one. ALso, if you put a drop of blue food colouring in the loo (or get a bloo block in your cistern) then peeing on it makes it go green and ds loved that!!!

Thanks for the advice. I think we will try the ping pong ball as he prefers th potty and I'm trying to get him to use the toilet instead & that might be an incentive. He likes standing up to (not so good with a potty).

I think he does try to hold his poo in too but he eats loads of fruit so his poos are really soft. But he just can't hold it in for ever and eventually he goes in his pants.

Harrisey - how long had you been trying for before your DS cracked the poos? We've been going for 4 months but it seems like forever.

Just to let you know you're not alone in this. My DS2 wasn't interested in potty training although i knew he had been physically able to for ages. I encouraged him to choose a new potty and a new pack of pants to take on holiday, along with some bribes (chocolate ) and hey presto, he made up his own mind to do it. After one day the potty was abandoned and i found him standing up to wee in the toilet because 'that's what men do'. I was delighted and so was he, and no accidents since. He was 3.8. All children are different, but all get there eventually, so don't lose heart. Good luck.

I got my ds1 to poo in the potty instead of pants by keeping him bare bottomed indoors and keeping the potty within 10 feet! He was about 3.2, so not early.

It's always boys, isn't it!

colditz i hope its boys, as my next challenge is my DD!

Rosieglow, no advice but lots of empathy! I just came on here to post a thread of my own about ds, 3.10, who WAS potty trained but has suddenly started having accidents.

We can't decide if it's because he gets too engrossed in what he's doing or if it's attention seeking. I've made a doctor's appt, but am hoping to be told there's nothing wrong.

Trouble is, ds doesn't mind being wet & finds going to the toilet, flushing the loo then washing and drying his hands quite boring.

The thing that worked best with him when potty training was a star chart, but not when I did it - had to be his dad. Maybe because he didn't have to tidy up, wash, etc so could be a bit more relaxed about it!!