Teenage daughter

[Samson302003]

I'm sure ppl will relate to this one but my 15 yr old daughter is horrible. She is selfish ignorant rude aggressive nasty and lazy.

She started this behaviour wen she was 11 but it's gradually got worse to the point that we do t even speak to one another because I'm so angry with her. I've tried everything. Talking spending time wih her taking her to the doctors punishment/rewards. Nothing works. Does anyone hav any advice ????? Thank u !

How about not ferrying her around, stopping sleepovers, not giving pocket money, etc, would that make a difference? I'm sure someone with words of wisdom will come along soon and I will be making notes for the future.

Can you think of anything specific that could be making her behaviour more extreme than the usual teenage stuff, OP? Does she have a friendship group or is she a bit isolated? How is she doing at school? Is she working for exams with some positive (if vague) plans for the future or does she seem a bit aimless? The teenage years are transitional ones between the security of childhood and going it alone as an adult and can be stressful and quite worrying for young people. Do you have any worries that she might be involved in drugs or drinking when she is out with her friends?

If all the above is ok, then you may have to accept that these are just teenage trials you and she are going through - a great deal of it hormonally-based. Apparently, a degree of hostility towards parents is biologically normal as part of the journey to adult independence : if things stay too cosy, children have no impetus to flee the nest! If it is any consolation, OP, your daughter is probably peaking in her teenage maelstrom of emotions at fifteen - hopefully, she will begin to improve soon!

It is a difficult phase for parents (especially mothers) to go through but remember she is having a bad time too: she will often be at the mercy of her emotions and say or do things that are due to being a teenager, not an innately selfish, aggressive person. I'm sure that, if there are no other serious additional problems that you haven't mentioned, your daughter will come to the end of this phase and become your lovely girl again.