Anyone here guilty of HELICOPTER PARENTING?????

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I read an article in the Evening Standard on this phenomenon. Couldn't find a link but found this:

here

So who is going to admit to being one or who knows one???

I'm definitely NOT. But there are 2 mothers at Saturday swimming who observe and comment upon every stroke that their offspring make. And, overhearing them, realise that they are the type that are always ringing the school about some injustice or other.

I am.

I'm not one but I def. have helicopter tendencies I think

I suppose I am too, but having a mother who didn't really give a toss about me, what I was up to and couldn't be bothered to take me to any classes etc I know what I would rather have.

I'm not but my sister in law is and her kids aren't very nice children!

No but I know a few!

Jesus I was born in 1982, the very start of the Baby Boom and I have never been 'overmanaged' by my Mum at all. In fact I've had to actively ask her to manage in the first place !

What an awful article, badly written imo.

Nope - I'm the take an interest by stay back sort iyswim

I try not to be, but I am sometimes.

wel thers at least ONE on mn

I am one of those, but my ds aint having it, too independant, so slowly he has weaned me off of it!

I am so not, I adopt the 'healthy neglect' school of parenting

i thought the baby boom was in the 50's!

ditto sweethearts post! Not me at all (although I am all for building confidence) but SIL is totally like thise and her kids are a PITA at times!

Who Cod, who? Name and shame!

What are helicopter mum traits?

Nope, not me

Not me but I know a few too; never knowing when to back off, constantly crossing the line between such things as:
providing a calm environment for homework v virtually doing it for them

listening sympathetically to Jake's tale of woe about his maths mark in a test v ringing the teacher to demand a re-mark of it

encouraging extracurricular interests and taking Sophie and harry to 1 or 2 weekly v pushing them really hard to persevere and excel at the music/tennis/judo they lost interest in last year

How on earth are they going to learn to manage their own lives when they're older ?

I have helicopter traits, I obsess over dd mainly because she is my only one and we ahve been through so much together and it is a rection to my own childhood when my parents showeed no interest and instilled no confidence in me.

I dont think I have robbed dd of her independence though, as she spends moct of her weekend off playing with friends and had no problems with first dat at school or nursery, just wandered in without looking back.

I think I sometimes am but the majority of the time not.

I couldn't even finish reading the article tbh.

"so-called echo boomers -- the children of baby boomers, who were born between 1982 and 1995"

I don't understand this bit, who do they mean?

My ds is only 7 months old but I'm hoping not to be a helicopter parent, more of an idler parent:
www.idler.co.uk/archives/?page_id=158

But then I've already gone back on things I'd said I'd definitely do/be before ds was born so probably shouldn't comment now

Not me miss, no.

Mercy, I haven't read it (can't be arsed) but I guess the people born between those years are meant to have parents who were baby boomers (born just after WW2, I think).

tamum