DD aged just 4 suddenly started wetting the bed

[CountessDracula]

She has been dry at night for months and the last 3 nights she has wet the bed

We have always had problems with her pooing on the loo or in potty, she always put a nappy on (pull-up) and pooed in there. She swore that when she was 4 she would poo in the loo and sure enough she did. She was only 4 a week ago though, so I am wondering if it is related in some way. Last night she kept saying she needed a pooo but it would't come out so I wonder if she is withholding it for some reason and this is causing her to wet the bed

I really don't want to traumatise her any more about going to the loo, she had terrible constipation and she has been on movicol for a year, I thought we had got over all her issues with it but now i am worrying that I have brought them on again with this.

Any ideas?

(the paed did say if she woudn't poo in the loo aged 4 then he would refer to a psychologist, should I do this do you think?)

I'm assuming you a/ limit drinks after tea and b/ make her do a wee very last thing after bedtime stories etc?
Maybe she is concentrating so hard on the pooing element that she has taken her eye off the 'weeing' ball IYSWIM... maybe she's struggling with the diff techniques involved.
In which case, if you're doing a and b, maybe you have to go back to some old habits, just for the time being.
I'd lift, just for a bit, to help her get her confidence back (assuming that she is upset by wetting the bed).
And do a star chart. And continue to big up the poos in the loo.
I wouldn't get on to the psych just yet. After all she is pooing in the loo.

gawd, it sounds like it is related to the poo issue.

Try to ignore it as much as possible imo. I have had two bedwetters and I have been known to shout and it does not help!

Maybe drop a urine sample off at your GP surgery too just to makes sure it's not an infection as that can cause sudden wetting like this.

took her wee to doc tonight, no infection

when ds holds in his poo (which he did for aaaaaaaaaages ggrr), he used to start wetting.

Has she started at school? or has something happened that's upset her?

No I think it's the pooing in the loo that has upset her

I lifted her last night and she was dry

sorry, not quite clear, do you mean you lifted her, she weed, and didn't wet the bed?
or didn't she wee when you lifted her?

I think if it continues to be a problem (in that it continues to worry her and there doesn't seem to be any major progress) then I would take up the psychologist referral.

Ds had this problem when he was 3 and it was awful. I really felt for him because it was as if he had developed a real phobia of sitting on the loo to do his poo. Even now, if he has a hard poo, it all comes back and he will hold it in as long as possible (which of course, only makes matters worse). Luckily, it resolved itself but it wasn't without torment and anguish on his and our part!

I think having some professional input may be an idea - I was always terrified of doing something that would make it worse iykwim - it's a horrible situation really.

CD, if she needed a poo or was constipated then it could have put pressure on the bladder and made her wet the bed.
She's only just 4 so I'd give it a couple of months, try upping her fresh fruit levels to help the constipation and do a star chart to encourage regular use of the loo/praise her when she uses it. Whatever you do, try not to make it into a big issue and do not revert back to the pooing in pull-ups - she'll get over this, don't worry.

more water during the day should help with bedwetting at night and also ease constipation