Really need some guidance

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I have two boys, one about to start school, one in year 1. Totally different! Youngest in very popular, easy going, everyone lives him. Oldest, a worrier, finding school tough socially and isn't at all happy being there. He is in a tough year group and not ideal. He lacks motivation and takes whole class discipline very personally and to heart. He could be doing better and be happier his teacher has told me.

I am dreading youngest starting as already they are being compared by teachers. Youngest is going into a lovely class it seems. I really don't know if being together is going to work. I don't know if to re think the school all together and move both. Or move oldest..... Any words of wisdom?!

Not an expert but I have two boys 8 and 6. Polar opposites at school and don't seem to play with the same kids. My youngest struggled at his old school and my oldest is a worrier. I think school can be a tough environment for some kids but changing schools is quite major. I found that my two stick up for each other more now and being at the same school is definitely easier for things like sports day etc..
My youngest lacks motivation but excels in sport - we are all different. What are the teachers like

Also the teacher should be asking why is he not as happy. Kids who are happy in school do better I think. Does he maybe need a friend or buddy

Thank you for your reply. He is struggling to find a buddy, there are lots of cliques both in the class and the parents :( really odd angry dynamic in there too

Ooooh I hate the cliques. I don't fit in anywhere me. Is there more than one year 1 class? What's the schools reports etc... It must be hard for the little soldier going somewhere everyday that he isn't really happy :( sorry not much good at advice. Of your feeling uneasy then he will be too.

Yep just one class so stuck! It's heart breaking seeing him so down :(

Aww sending hugs for you both. Perhaps see if there is any outside help or support the school can offer. Or perhaps the school nurse. Your wee boy emotional well being is as important and not all of us just click into place at school etc. I was very shy and struggled with friendships when I was young but I got there

Is he mature enough to ask his opinion on whether he wants to move schools? If he is maybe use this last couple of weeks to visit other schools with him and let him be involved in the choice.

If it was me I would move him if he is happy with the idea. I was a lot older but the town I lived in had one school and I was miserable and it massively effects my self esteem even now so please don't hope for the best as this class will I'm all likelihood go with him for the next 5 years!!

If the teacher has said that, what strategies have they come up with? Also, how are they comparing the boys? What's been said?