really struggling, plz help!

[justalilmummy]

I've only just managed to get my 2 boys to sleep.....again! They are 5 and 1.

I was meant to have a play evening with eldest but baby had other ideas and I heard my eldest say to he's teddy 'mummy doesn't want me she just wants baby' broke my heart

Eldest won't sleep till baby does, baby won't sleep...eldest falling asleep all over the place.

He's behaviour is getting worse and worse he throws things, shouts, won't eat has an attitude of a teenager and I know it's coz he's not getting the attention he needs. Can't even play during nap times coz he's at school when baby naps

Whenever we do try play baby comes and pulls it all to pieces and if we sit at the table he claws at me and screams till I pick him up

I keep saying to my mum plz can u take baby once a month so I can have a day just for eldest do something I can't do with baby, ice skating bowling etc but she keeps saying she will and Shes only done it once

Plz help me, how can I give my boy more attention I feel like I'm losing my relationship with him and he's such a dear little thing

Are you able to put baby into nursery for 1 afternoon session a week or month? Private nursery afternoon sessions can run till 6pm so you could pick up from school and do something together?

Hi
Don't have anything constructive in terms of advice, but you sound tired out. Big hug. I am sure both boys have a fab Mum.:-)

Sending you massive hugs - the only advice I can give is to put baby to bed and let him cry himself to sleep. It will take a few days of absolute heart wrenching crying but it will work and when baby sleeps, you'll have time with your little boy. Good luck

Sorry if this sounds nosy or insensitive but i gather baby's Dad is unable to help by staying with baby while you spend time with the eldest?

What about the weekend? Could you go out and have baby in the buggy for a while (possibly napping) and do something with your older son?

Other than that I would agree with Madamnit I used a private nursery once a week for DS from about 18 months to give me time to get things done I couldn't manage otherwise with no childcare. It would give your older son and you some freedom.

No dads not able to look after baby

See I don't know if I can afford childcare I work 2 days a week and I get working tax credits but my mum has them but could I put him in a nursery for one afternoon when I'm not at work and get help with costs? Can I do that
Its hard coz I then feel torn, he's a mummys boy the baby and I dunno if he will cope will cope!

I don't know what I was moaning about with just one now!
Bedtimes are the worst atm, baby needs rocking off atm
as he has like a million teeth coming, eldest wants me to sit with him till he falls asleep, I know I should crack that habit coz it would make it alot easier but how!! I'd I put him to bed then walk out he comes out screaming so baby can't settle so I put baby down and Carey eldest back to bed, baby screams and over and over it goes!
I think I need a night out ha

Sorry bout spelling mistakes phone is old so very slow!

Ah got them both up again, gonna let them camp out in my bed ttonight me thinks