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Runaway Kid on the run again

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Diva75 · 09/09/2006 21:14

How does a parent stop a 14year old boy from Running away.

My DS have been running away for the past 4months he goes for as long as 15days at a time, and now that he is back at school, he goes on a friday and comes monday morning fpr school.

What can l do, have tried to talk to him but its not working............any ideas please?

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CountTo10 · 09/09/2006 21:16

I don't know what to suggest but there is a website thats currently being advertised on a couple of threads on here re missing children that is supposed to be operating a forum for parents and missing children alike - might be some interesting stories/advice on there for inspiration for you? I hope it all works out as I can't imagine how worrying this must be for you. My little bro went thru this phase and it put years on my mum. He only did it for a couple of days at a time tho. Big hugs for you x

bouncyball · 09/09/2006 22:02

Hi
Feel for you have nightmares at the thought of this happening let alone being smack right in the middle of it. Also no advise to give you. Did see something once about parents that have their children followed by private investigators to see what they are up to. Obviously a cost implication here but if your son will not talk to you maybe this might give you an insight!!

Don't give up and take care of you!

Tortington · 09/09/2006 22:06

i tell mine that they can always go out - its getting back in thats the problem.

my rules, my food, my bills, my house.

runkid · 09/09/2006 22:49

Diva sorry to here your having problems again he will come back. just have to stay strong

snoopy2 · 09/09/2006 22:54

Diva, you say that when you try to talk its now working - what is he saying is the problem, where does he go when he runs off?

My neice was the same.

snoopy2 · 09/09/2006 22:55

.......... sorry, meant NOT working not NOW working. sorry.

runkid · 10/09/2006 21:57

hi diva has your ds come home yet and how you feeling

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Diva75 · 10/09/2006 23:18

I had my family here this weekend for support, he came home at 10pm this evening.

He doesnt say where he has been and he is not willing to talk about anything. He doesnt care about how l feel and the time and effort everyone is in the family is investing in this.

Its really hard right now.

Thanks all!

X

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mell2 · 11/09/2006 09:34

No advice i'm afraid but i am thinking of you and pleased that he is home at the moment.

Our kids just don't realise what they put us through do they . Carry on talking though, and hopefully he will confide. Take care

theUrbanDryad · 11/09/2006 15:20

diva, i've been thinking about this recently and i did wonder if there might be an underlying cause of his reluctance to talk to you? (not wishing to panic you) BUT is there a possibility that he is meeting someone in an abusive relationship? have you said something like, "whatever you tell me i won't be angry, i just want to know you're ok!" there can be any number of reasons for a teenager wishing to be secretive, unfortunately the main one is usually bloody-mindedness! but obviously you can't ignore other factors.

just a couple of thoughts anyway. still thinking of you (though not in a freaky way!)

Tortington · 11/09/2006 21:56

do you feed him, buy him clothes, buy him games, new electronic games, does he have a mobile phone - who pays for that? do you wash his clothes. does he go to school in a newly pressed shirt?
does he have lovely cereal for breakfast and a lovely meal at night?

i am guessing yes.

how wonderful this must be for a 14 year old - to have this luxury then fuck off whenever he likes for days.

i am sorry for not sounding more sympathetic - i am i p[romise i am.

i have a 16year old. i locked him out only last week.

seriously. sometimes you just have to metephrically shout STOP.
lock the door. dont do anything for someone who treats you like a piece of shit.

at a basic human courtesy level there are things he should do. if he doesn't then hat does that make you exactly?

at a basic human level that makes you a doormat.

even children have to learn that motherhood doesnt equal a pass to piss take.

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Diva75 · 12/09/2006 17:28

L do provide, for him more than most do, he is a previleged kid, but treats me like a doormate.

Dont know why,this is why am puzzeled about his behaviour.

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Diva75 · 12/09/2006 17:30

Runaway from school today, he is not home yet! Dont know whats going on in his head.

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runkid · 12/09/2006 19:19

Hi Diva sorry to here about todays escapades. If i where you i would start with some tough love right about now he is taking the p*

theUrbanDryad · 13/09/2006 13:43

hey diva, how's it going? has he come home yet or given any explanation for his disappearance? hope you're holding up.

runkid · 13/09/2006 19:48

Hi Diva how are things!!

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