Will my 18 month old settle with care giver. Crying hysterically,,

[Thaniya]

Okay so this the story my child always been mega clingy with me!! She's 18 months now and just started getting on with her grandparents and aunts. I left her there the other week for 4 hrs while I attended a job interview and she was fine she had her dinner and napped. No crying. But since then when ever I go there she won't leave my side chooses not mix with everyone and soon as I leave the room she cries for me!! It's the first time I left her. ANYWAYY since then I've left her for 1 hr for a hospital app and she cried and cried while I was away looking for me :(. I then left her again for 20 mins and said by and she cried the whole 20mins as we'll and been sick everywhere. Has anyone experienced this plz? I'm worried as I start work soon and I'm worried she never settles again and cries all day...what can I do please?? I'm stressed! :(

It'll be different at nursery (if that's where she's going) - DD (aged 4) likes to be with me, when I'm around (rather than being with someone else, even her dad sometimes) but at nursery she is, and always has been, fine.

Talk to your nursery (or childminder) about it, but they will be experienced and can advise you, and there should be a settling-in period. Listen to their advise, but mine would be, once the settling-in period is over, to drop-off and run, don't hang about as that causes confusion. DD has has phases of looking rather tragic and being tearful at drop-off, but I make sure I leave her with one of the staff for a cuddle, and I am assured that as soon as I'm gone she's fine, and at pick-up she's always as jolly as you like.

It will be her gran and auntie who will be taken care of her. She was fine with them b4 now she just cries and cries when u leave her with them or even leave her with her uncles or anyone really :-/- nd when I go to there's she doesn't leave my sight.

DS has this thing where he can leave me but I've not to leave him he's been the same from about 18mo. HE's almost 2.5 now and I've gotten to the bottom of it, he told me he was going to Nannas house and I was to stay in his bedroom and wait for him then last week I told him I would drop him at Grannys while I went out he refused saying he was staying with me but then my mum said she would pick him up he happily went telling me to 'stay here'. So he seems happy to go out as long as he knows i'm at home waiting for him but isn't happy with me disappearing. Maybe your DD is feeling the same not knowing where mummy is may be making her uneasy?

Can you give her something of yours to hold on to (worn t-shirt etc) that has your scent? This helped my DD when she developed separation anxiety after a very happy year at our CMs. hope it gets better soon.