DD1 asked me to "kiss her better" where the sun don't shine... what would you do?

[TheArchangel]

Excuse this post if it seems a bit odd but I don't know who to ask - I don't really fancy calling my friends on a Saturday and asking them their opinion!

Whenever DD1 (age 2.6) hurts herself I always 'kiss it better' however today she has been complaining of being sore in between her legs. Earlier she insisted I 'kiss it better' and tried to make me kiss her where it was hurting.

I couldn't bring myself to do this for obvious reasons but still I found it hard to give her an explaination why I wouldn't kiss her. She got REALLY upset and cried for ages. I felt really cruel and in the end 'blew' her a kiss however she seemed really mystified as to why I wouldn't kiss her 'down there'.

I let my children run around naked and we have a pretty open attitude towards nudity in our house. I don't want to spoil my dd's innocence by making an issue of a body part that is to her no different than a hand or a foot!! (IYKWIM) I don''t want to make her feel dirty either.

What would you do? What should I do if it happens again? I simply don't want to make an issue of it in front of her!

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Well, frankly I think it is sad that anyone would think anything of it at all, but I understand where you are coming from. To me it is the same as taking photos of your kids naked - something completely harmless, that is sadly not totally acceptable nowadays because we are all obsessed with paedophilia. There is nothing inherently harmful about kissing your child's genitals better IMO.

BTW, I certainly wouldn't say you are not doing it because you don't want to get wee in your mouth. I don't think children need to be given the message that their genitalia are not clean.

I would kiss my ds' penis better yes, they do have to learn that they are private places but not to the extent that they are any different from anywhere else when it comes to being kissed better by mummy. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with the other ideas, they are sweet and fine but I wouldn't have thought about them , I would just have kissed better, no problem