Putting 3month old in own room

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DC3 is nearly three months, our bedroom has very thin curtains and she keeps waking when the sun comes up! She already sleeps her first stretch in her cot in own room with blackout blonds as we put her to bed about 7pm. We then move her across to our room when nice and dark.

Wondering if it could really do any harm to let her sleep all night in her own room and cot. I think we keeping waking each other as she wakes and really isn't hungry and ends up throwing up her milk.

Any experiences of moving them to own rooms before recommended 6 months?

I know loads who did this - some due to space and done due to needed to not wake each other. Mine had to go in own room at 4mths as we had no room for cot. We had an angel care that some one gave me which added piece of mind

I moved my DD into her own room when she was 4 months because she was waking hourly and not settling unless she was fed, it was a very horrible time because I was sleep deprived and going crazy.

There is an increased risk of SIDS if they're moved before they're six months but I'm not sure what the statistic is. I would make sure you've read up on what the statistics are and make your decision based on what you're comfortable with.

You could always try black out curtain linings for your room to make it a bit darker? We did this for DD's room and it made it a lot darker and she's no longer waking up at 4am because it's getting light.

Why not get black out blinds for your room?

Ds was in his own room from practically day one, this was 13 years ago though.

My DS went into his own room at 7 weeks as he outgrew his moses, he is now nearly 4 months old. We do not have room in our bedroom for a cot so we had no choice, my Dr said to do what feels right for us!

I wouldn't, firstly due to SIDS risks, secondly because mine woke up frequently at that age so I would be more tired trotting back and forth.

We did get black out blinds in our room though.

Dd was in Moses basket in cot in own room from around 4 months.

Blackout blinds are on order but it's taking ages and each night I'm getting more and more tempted to just let her sleep.

Thanks for your responses, I might call HV today and find out exactly what risks are and reasons why the guidelines are 6months. The I can do what feels right.

Hope I get an informed HV!

My baby started sleeping in his own room at 4 months as we were disturbing him if we talked, got dressed etc. He sleeps much better now.

I did this.

The sids risk is tiny, and having baby in their own room only makes the risk very slightly less tiny. All our other risk factors were low. As a slightly mitigating factor, I had a condition which meant I needed to get up frequently during the night, and the noise of me moving around and taking medicines etc disturbed my dd. Everyone slept better after we did it. I think I'd do the same again with another dc, even if my condition wasn't a factor.

Why don't you go and sleep in baby's room until blackout blinds come?

If you're wanting to move her mostly because waking each other then fair enough, but FYI we bought gro black out blind for our bedroom from amazon as a temporary solution, and they can come with us when we go on holiday. We still moved her at 4 months but SIDS risks are highest between 2-4 months and by then she was sleeping for longer so less hassle going to settle her etc.

we put DD (who is now 18mo) in her own room from about 11w; we were lucky that she was sleeping well by then as i had a nasty cough, which just kept disturbing her. once in her own room everyone slept better.

OP - the guidelines are six months because sleeping in the same room as a parent reduces the risk of SIDS. This isn't just to do with you being able to hear and respond to the baby as some people believe. Studies haven't yet really proved the reason why it helps, but it is believed that hearing an adult breathing pattern may help a sleeping baby to regulate their own breathing/remember to breathe.

Make the decision which is right for your family. Personally, because SIDS peaks between 2-4 months of age, I would find a way of someone sharing a room with her (even if on a mattress in her room) for another month, but that's just my personal take.

I've got a blow up bed that I'll take into her room tonight, thanks for that suggestion. I'm just so tired that I'm not very logical so didn't think of that!

Maybe when we don't have to move her in with us then she'll sleep for a longer.

Blinds should be here this week too.

Thanks for the advice. :)

My DD was 6wks when she went into her own room and cot as she was too long for her moses basket. Its the best thing we did and she slept through from 15wks. She has a blackout blind in her room as do we.

My ds was 9 weeks old when he went into his own room. He also out grew Moses. My dd was 2days old when she went into her own room . I'd caught a chest infection in hospital and was barking the house down at night. I took the risk/chance. It has to be your choice as it goes against the SIDS guidelines. My best friend is trying for a baby if she asked me this question I would say exactly the same. It has to be your own choice xx

Sorry I should add that even tho they were in own rooms at such young ages they were often on me for a good 6-9 months before they settled into long periods of sleep. It didn't really feel like we'd changed rooms x

Lots of babies sleep in their own rooms but no one on Mumsnet likes to admit it - my DS went in his own room from two weeks.

I would. We've still got DD in our bed and I can't wait to have to the space back!

Please do it. At 4 and a half months DS kept waking. Hv advised putting him in his own room. That night he slept. Turns out we had . Been waking him . He was much better in a quiet dark room. Just open the doors between the rooms.

I read the title of this thread as 'Putting 3month old in oven' and clicked in horror.
I think I need to go to bed

I put DD in her own room at 3 months. No good reason really, except we thought she would sleep better as she kept waking up when we went up to bed and then taking hours to settle again.

My understanding is that the guidelines are not to put a 3mo in the oven Notso

My 10 week old has been in his own room for 3 weeks with an angelcare mat. He outgrew his Moses basket and I'm now getting much more sleep as I don't hear every grunt and fart!

DD in own room at 8 weeks here, much better for everyone all round. When she went through 4 month sleep regression we co-slept a bit as that was easier but she always started out in her room. Apparently co-sleeping now increases the risk.

I don't purposefully flout advice, I do what works best for my family.