ds is 2.5 - I think he should be in a bed, dp disagrees

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We've only got one ds so we're fairly clueless and belong to the 'wing it' school of parenting. Mostly Iit works just fine

Ds is still in his cot though. He's little so size wise he could stay in it for ages yet but I think the longer we leave him the harder it will be.

I'd also quite like him to be able to toddle in and climb in with us as he always wakes 20 minutes before the alarm, one of us has to go and get him and bring him in for a cuddle and a natter.

Dp likes that we know he's safe in the cot. He's never climbed out

I'd like to take the bars off this weekend but dp would like to wait an indeterminate amount of time.

I also think that he'll be fine with a single quilt sideways on and tucked in. Dp thinks that when we do change it he should have 2 safety bar things on!

imo either is fine. dd1 seemed ready at 2.2mo - was sleeping in a bed on holiday or a ready bed when away.

just after we did it she might trained as well.

she plays in her room before and after sleep. and we just leave her to it.

but leaving her in would have been fine too.

in my experience you just decide its time and do something. dh and I normally agree.

DD is 2.3 and still in her cot.

I live in fear of when we have to move her; I know she'd be out of there like a flash and contrive the most dangerous / crazy situations possible (even though her room is baby proofed to the hilt).

I hear people saying that their toddler just comes to their room to find them and think that's really sweet. DD would be sticking things in sockets or trying to climb the radiator.

Poppyamex my dad would be the same. She's 23 months and still in cot. With ds we took the sides off at 18 months in the vain hope he would play for a bit when he woke at 5am (didn't work)

Dd could cause chaos in a padded cell so she's staying in there as long as possible!

My dad?!? My dd obviously

Im in the leave in cot as long as posible camp.

Ds3 was 2.8 and only moved then because ge was bug and I thought hw might tip it up.

Never had a problem moving them to toddler beds

He and big!

DS was in the cot until about 2.5 than we moved him to a toddler bed as we needed the cot for DD
She moved into a bed at a younger age, because she was dry at night by about 2.3. Both went into a toddler bed, low to the ground, so no risk of falling out. DS had a stairgate on his bedroom doorway to stop him wandering, DD stayed in bed. All DCs are different. I found both of mine adapted very easily and quickly though.

In in the "stop babying them and let them have a bed camp"

I transferred both mine well before they hit two and had no problems.

IMO it's dangerous to leave themin a cot even if they show no signs of climbing because the bigger they get the heavier they get and could pull cot over on themselves if they hang off it long enough.

Plus dd2 got her leg stuck in he bars. Putting things off just to avoid dealing with a behaviour that is undesirable snacks of just being a bit lazy. I don't know anyone who kept their kid in a cot past 2

Dd will be going straight into a bottom bunk not toddler bed.

We took the side off briefly for a couple of nights, but it was horrendous.

Sorry if it's lazy, but I don't want to deal with it at moment. She's already a terrible sleeper, I work. I can't give up weeks at the moment to no sleep. She wouldn't potter into our room in morning, she'd go and see how much stuff she could fit down the toilet. We can't put a gate on the door as ds (4) can't open gates.

I seem to be in a minority but I really, really don't get what the problem with leaving them in a cot or cotbed with the side still on is, as long as they are not trying to climb out or tip it over?

Maybe it's just the 'they're not a baby any more' logic. Which (entirely personally) makes me a bit - they've got their whole life ahead of them, I can't see the need to rush them to the next stage. I did that when DD was little with weaning and the like, now she's 2.5 I feel like I am trying to hold on to a few things that are still quite sweet.

"Putting things off just to avoid dealing with a behaviour that is undesirable snacks of just being a bit lazy."

You're funny.

Why?

They have to learn to stay in bed. 2.5 is plenty old enough and if they nap at nursery they nap on mats, not cots at that age.

Plus if you go in holiday having a cut out in the room costs extra and they don't always fit in the rooms so have to be put in lounge. Plus why would you want to drag a travel cot out at that age when you could just put them in a bed.

Cot put In the room

Oh well, each to their own. DC currently sleeps in a travel cot at the childminders anyway and will for as long as she needs to nap, as the CM can't just put the kids all in single beds. I think I personally prefer to deal with any issues about getting out of bed when they have even more language skills and you don't have to do rapid return and all that malarkey. Why inflict that on anyone if there is no reason to?

Obviously everyone should do whatever they want or need to do in terms of beds, but not taking a side off a cot is neither lazy nor babying a toddler. It's just not creating a problem out of nothing.

i left it until he was climbing out. i liked that i knew he was safe, i could keep stuff out of reach.

I think you know your own child. If I'd listened to my own instincts and not moved him to a bed at 2 perhaps I would have slept a bit more in the last 6 months. He's 2.8 and I think he would have dealt with it better now.

DS doesn't nap anymore and stopped napping once the side of his cot was off.

Most of our holidays have been in the UK the last few years and we've never been charged for a cot. The minute we removed the side of his cot he refused to sleep in a travel cot (he'd climb out) which meant he was on the loose in non-toddler friendly hotels/spare rooms when staying with family.

Each to their own.