AIBU to think DH should save his work rants until DS has gone to bed?

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I was going to post this in AIBU but a bit scared of some of the vitriolic posters there

I'm quite prepared to be told I'm being unreasonable or very precious but this is bothering me.

DH only sees DS (who is 1) for an hour before bedtime. He has a very stressful job and will usually come into the house and immediately start ranting away about whatever has pissed him off at work that day. I'll give him DS for a kiss and cuddle but he just continues ranting and I swear DS has a "WTF" look on his face. After about 15 minutes of ranting he'll then pay attention to DS.

Considering he spends so little time with DS during the week AIBU or precious to think that he could put a smiley face on and save his ranting until after bedtime? There are many times when I don't feel great but still manage to plaster a smile on my face and get on with it. Just worried it is affecting their bonding time - DH is a bit miffed that DS always cries for me and doesn't take much notice of him.

Ta

I think YANBU at all, no wonder your DS cries for you! No child would want to be handed over to the scary angry aggressive sounding person. Have you pointed out to your DH that his angry rants are probably at the root of his failure to bond with DS?

Him having a let it all out moment might mean he has better quality time after it than waiting.
She is clingy to you as you're the main carer and that's very normal development.
I can understand how you feel but maybe he needs to vent to be a better dad.

It's not an angry rant - more of a "And then he did this, and I had to do this and it's not my job blah blah blah" and not aggressive at all. It's just that he pays no attention to DS while he's doing it.

Then it's bath time and bed time so unfortunately not too much quality time. Glad to hear I'm not being too precious about it - I told him this morning to come home as a happy dad please!

DH does this - he comes home earlier than your DH though. Always has an 'unload rant' to me in the kitchen while I'm trying to dish up everyone's dinner and get the kids washing hands etc. He knows he's being rather U, but he can't stop himself. I give him 5 mins, then switch attention back to everyone else, and he knows that's his signal to move on.