Trying to conceive - have a 10mo

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I'm sorry if this topic has been done to death...I go back to work in 8 weeks and already thinking about the best time to try for another baby. DD1 is 9/10 months, and I thought I wanted a 3 year age gap. I'm nearly 35 though and conscious I might even want 3 kiddies. So....rambling aside, is it really tough having only a 2yr age gap between DC's? Do you think it's wrong to go back to work and be pregnant only a few months later?

I'd really appreciate any views. I know I just need to focus on DD1 and my return to work, but just want to have some form of game plan in my head. I think it's my way of coping!!!

I have almost exactly 2 years between my DC, and I was 35 and 37 when I had them so hopefully can lend you my shoes as it were :)

I cannot deny that a two year gap has been really quite hard, though DD was very advanced verbally when DS was born and this made things easier in some ways - Friends with similar gaps and less verbal older DC did say this was difficult.

DCs are 4.6 and 2.6 now and we are coming out the other side of the hard bit I hope. They play so beautifully together sometimes and are developing a lovely little relationship. DS is going to be very sad when DD starts school in September.

That said, we knew we were done at 2 - I definitely wouldn't want to go back to a baby stage now! If I'd done the same again, and had a 4yr, 2yr and six month old now I suspect I'd be on my knees.

I returned to work full-time (compressed hours) after 13 months and was back for 11 months before going off on mat leave again. It was fine, no one batted an eyelid when I became pregnant the second time. After DS was born though I did switch to part-time hours as DH and I both commute to London and it was killing us.

I wouldn't worry about what other people think too much to be honest. Hope your return to work goes well.

i went back to work 2 months pregnant and no, i dont think it is wrong. employers would let employees go if need be...so dont feel/guilty bad if you want a second baby soon after maternity leave. Many women do it. I have a 20 months gap and it was hard at first but got easier after a few months. I am sure the first few months difficult anyway....it sure felt that way with the first child! Now its so cute to see my babies play together :)

Thanks so much all. I'd love to have little ones playing like you describe - so cute! I love the fact your little one is trying to teach her little brother to say her name instead - how do they grow up so quick?! My boss and peers on my team don't have kids, and were a bit funny that I was pregnant only a year after starting at the company...not sure they'll be as understanding as those you describe, but you're right that I need to stop worrying about that. Think I'll aim for two babies too, and not get ahead of myself planning three... Ha ha!