About 3 months ago our 10 year old walked in to our bedroom whilst we were in the throes of passion!!! We were very shocked and quickly tried to diffuse the situation.. She was very upset, demanded to know what we were doing. I stammered something about not feeling very well and after her dad had managed to quickly get dressed whilst I calmed her down... I took her downstairs for some water and to calm her down. The problem we now have is that she hates us cuddling or showing any kind of affection... She monitors us and I sometimes catch her hovering outside our bedroom and makes excuses to go to the toilet and as excuse to check up on us. I thought she would 'get over it' but her overall attitude is starting to worry me. I've tried to explain that her parents love each other and it's normal and we were not doing anything wrong. She said she 'doesn't trust' us and it made her feel angry and weird. Me and my hubby have resorted to making love in the mornings after the children have gone to school, and before he goes to work. This is rare as I work too and I am so afraid to do anything in bed at night even if the door is closed. My fear is that she will start banging on the door! She's complained about not being able to sleep and I am worried sick that We've given her major issues. What should I do??? She has an older brother and younger brother, and looks younger than 10.... She is very innocent and I just don't know what to do! Do I take her to a child psychologist or will she forget or grow out of these issues?
I guess I feel that we're the only couple that this has happened to and any help or advice will be really appreciated.