Just when I thought dd was slowly going to settle in at playgroup... SIGH...

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... she just came to me crying and saying she didn't want to go tomorrow.
Bit of background: She started in Feb, but got progressively worse not better, so I took her out again in April
Went back on Tue, also went today, and seemed to be slowly getting used to it - tears yes, but also some good moments.
Big SIGH!
I said to her we'd talk about it in the morning. I think I'll say that she has to go. And she does have to, really - for my sanity...

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any ideas anybody how to handle this in the morning?

persist, please . Offer a reward if needs be for staying tomorrow and not crying. Then do the same if she is ok all next week. Can you look after a favourite toy and bring it to meet her ? Make sure you downplay whatever you are doing in the meantime - shopping was always what I told dd - and reiterate that you will return once you've done it. She will settle , as long as you are confident that she is safe and has no reason to be unhappy, she will become distracted more readily and not play to your audience.

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when she ocmes back every day tell her what a DULL time you have had
you haev celaned and done dtuff sh e hates

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I am heavily bribing her already and I tell her that I just tidy up etc. but still she's not happy...
I will make her go though, she just has to. I just wish she was like dd1, who never once shed a tear!

I also think that small children do this as a matter of course

ignore

be matter of fact

you're going

I just feel so intensely embarrassed because she really is very very loud and disruptive to the other children

Bribery seemed to work for my friend. Her dd kept crying when left at pre-school (was absolutely fine two minutes after her Mum had gone). So she bought her the thing she most wanted in the world - a Care Bear, and put it on top of the kitchen cupboard where she could see it but not reach it. Then she got a sticker every day she didn't make a fuss about being left - two or three weeks of stickers and she got her bear. It worked like a charm and - even after the 6 week break - she's gone back happily (with no more bribery!)

Oooh that sounds quite good.
Dd does actually collect stickers, with the incentive being a party for her, but maybe I should take her to toys r us and get her something which she'll then be able to see, somethign more tangible.

Give it a try - and make it clear that she only gets a sticker if she doesn't kick off at playgroup. And when she does get a sticker praise her to the skies - so she gets lots of 'mini rewards' along the way.

Well today they actually had to drag her away from me as I was leaving.
Is dd the only child who actually gets worse, not better, from session to session?

She will be fine. Keep cool when she kicks off, repeat calmly that you are going to do dull householdy type jobs while she has fun and you will be back when they are finished then you can enjoy a nice time together(reading, drawing, whatever her choice is) this afternoon before dd1 comes home (or whatever). Leave asap.

dd went through ups and downs at playgroup and preschool which lasted a few sessions and again when she started Reception last year. She had good days and bad for a couple of weeks , even having to be peeled away from me too. It is normal, the staff can handle it and she will be fine. You need it to work out, please don't let this defeat you.