I have two DD. DD1 just turned 6 and DD2 is 2 y 9m. They get along really nicely but also clash (as is normal no doubt!) but I need help managing DD1 reaction.
e.g. We are staying away from home. DD1 has previously slept in one bed & wants to sleep in that bed again, but when DD2 wants to sleep in that bed, DD1 gets grumpy & sulky & insists that DD2 should have it even though she wants it.
e.g. This morning DD2 want some of a particular colour of DD1's loombands that DD1 doesn't want to give to her but when I say she can keep them DD1 then gives them all to her.
And so on. It's really hard to deal with because when you try to enforce the perfectly reasonably wish of DD1 she then denies it & insists on DD2 having her way, to the point of screaming tantrums. She is not happy with that though, it's not selfishness, as she then is sulky & grumpy. Now she is lying in the bed she didn't want (which I didn't want her in either!) having refused to listen to stories & sighing heavily so I know she is unhappy.
I need a way of defusing somehow? I don't always want to impose DD1 wishes as sometimes they are not right but she is awful at just giving in to DD2 & then being unhappy with the result?!