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baby changes after holiday

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basboseh · 06/09/2006 16:54

i have 7 months baby
after spending two months in a holiday with my family she never stops crying and want me to hold her and play with her 24\7.
shes driving me crasy i cant do anything
is it just normal 4 her age to do so
should i leave her 2 cry?

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bluejelly · 06/09/2006 16:57

I wouldn't leave her to cry, she is so small.

Were you with her on the holiday? Maybe it's just the change of routine, and should settle down after a few days/weeks.
if you weren't with her for two months then the readjustment period is likely to take longer I reckon...

Either way it will pass.

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basboseh · 06/09/2006 17:05

i hope so
i was with her

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basboseh · 06/09/2006 17:08

i knw that babies this age start to understand that mum is a room a way.
i cant leave her to cry
she keeps me busy all the time and i have no time 4 my self aat all

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bluejelly · 06/09/2006 17:09

Poor you
You sound like you need some more help-- does your dh help?
DO you have friends nearby with kids?
Do you get out of the house every day?

belgo · 06/09/2006 17:09

I think it's normal - she's at an age where she wants to learn - but can't do this on her own, babies are hopeless at entertaining themselves! If you have to get things done, then involve her in whatever you are doing, make sure she can see you, and talk to her, telling her about what you are doing. You can also try carrying her in a sling so that she is at your height and can see what you are doing. Babies are hard work, some more then other! My dd1 was such a difficult baby to entertain, but is growing up lively and intelligent and interesting.

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basboseh · 06/09/2006 17:13

my dh works almost every day
he helps whan hes around,i no more feel i have a baby when hes home
i go out whenever i can ,she likes to go out

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basboseh · 06/09/2006 17:15

but most of the days i`m home alone with her.
when she sleeps i run to finish whatever i can in the least time possible

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basboseh · 06/09/2006 17:17

in the holiday there were always dozens of people around us most of the time
i hope it will pass soon
but HOW CAN I TEACH HER NOT TO BE AFRAID ALONE AND TO TRUST ME THAT I`M NOT FAR AWAY AND ALWAYS AROUND?

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belgo · 06/09/2006 17:18

Try and insist upon some time for yourself, ask your dh to take the baby for a set amount of time on a regular basis (I insist on a couple of hours to myself every saturday) - being with your baby constantly is very draining, and you need something to look forward to.

belgo · 06/09/2006 17:22

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HOW CAN I TEACH HER NOT TO BE AFRAID ALONE AND TO TRUST ME THAT I`M NOT FAR AWAY AND ALWAYS AROUND?

My attitude to my baby crying changed as soon as I realised that she was crying not because she thought I wasn't there but because she knew I was there and would come back to her if she cried.

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basboseh · 06/09/2006 17:23

so what did you do?
how did your attitude changed?

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belgo · 06/09/2006 17:29

Difficult question.
I suppose part of me dissasociated myself with the crying, I simply didn't let it bother me so much (I had to, the crying gave me tinnitus). Sometimes , needs must, and when you're absolutely desperate you do somehow find your way. ANd as I said, I insisted on time for myself, even if it was just half an hour in the bath every evening. Things did get better, and the more your baby can do for herself, the more she'll be able to entertain herself.

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basboseh · 06/09/2006 17:35

right!!
she will eventually learn to crawl,walk and so on.
i guess my husband wontmind at all some time for my self. ill start today.
that`s something good to look forward to!!

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basboseh · 06/09/2006 17:39

but about crying
she cries like a grown up.
her crying is very painful to hear
sometimes -like you-i have to leave her to cry cause ther`s no other way or there will be no dinner!

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belgo · 06/09/2006 17:52

it's heartbreaking to hear your baby's cry, you are a very good mum to feel this way for your baby

'sometimes -like you-i have to leave her to cry cause ther`s no other way or there will be no dinner!'

Just put her somewhere where she can see you making dinner. Hope your dh will be supportive.

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basboseh · 06/09/2006 18:06

you wont believe what other people suggested!! they said i should have a nother baby so she can play with!!! if i cant cope with one crying baby ,how can i manage two?

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belgo · 06/09/2006 18:48

your experience with this baby will teach you a lot and you will cope a lot better then you expect with a second baby. It's true to a certain extent that siblings entertain each other - but you also spend much of your time trying to stop them killing each other...

bluejelly · 08/09/2006 11:09

How are things today Baboseh?

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