I have 2 months to fix this

[fletch299]

My 4 year old ( only child) won't eat "real food"
Diet consists of : Milk, Water, Bread & Butter, Toast, Garlic bread ,Fish fingers, Chicken nuggets,Macaroni cheese,spagetti hoops,chips,sausages ( from a tin),tomato soup,crisps. ( I give her a daily vitamin)
When she was being weaned she would eat Ratatouille and salmon ( I was so proud!) , but this has eroded over time - with more items being rejected.
She has been at nursery since 3 months old (full time - I work full time) .
In September she has to have school meals ( no packed lunch allowed).
I have just looked at the school menu and she will not eat any of it.
Anyone got any ideas ?
I have tried bribery, but she is SO willful.

What does she eat at nursery and on the weekends? What do you do if she refuses food?

Btw it is possible. We were in a similar position with our DS a few years ago but his list mainly consisted of chips, cheese sandwich and milk. Now he only refuses fresh tomato

What happens if you stop buying garlic bread, fish fingers, chicken nuggets, macaroni cheese, spagetti hoops, chips, sausages (from a tin), tomato soup, crisps????
Because that's what I would do. Start offering little bits of fruit and veg, and other more healthy stuff, with a reward for being a good girl and DO NOT revert to giving the crap stuf because you think she might be hungry.

Milk is very filling, so I would limit that too for a while.

If all else fails, you'd be surprised at what peer pressure can do once they start school!

I take the hard line on this, If you don't eat what I make, you go hungry. And she probably will eat at school, theres nothing else there for her to eat and she will see her friends eating things and want to try them.

Thx for the replies.
I send her to nursery with bread & butter & a piece of bread for them to toast.If I dont send that the nursery staff go and get them for her.
She got a gold star from them for having a bite of cake.
If she refuses food - I have been getting her what she asks for. ( DH looks after her before and after school and will do the same).
I know we need to stop ( from tonight)
last week she wanted a certain doll I said no unless she ate some salad. she just said she didnt want the doll anymore.
Will limit milk & start tonight again - we have cottage pie for tea.
thx

DS was very similar, and a year ago I was also fretting.
He is in Reception now and eats pretty much all his lunch every day (I am friends with one of the lunchtime assistants). Peer pressure and trying to be grown up can be pretty powerful. He also responds well to sticker charts. So say a chart with 50 spaces - a sticker per space - one sticker for trying new food/clearing plate etc - when the chart is full he's earnt whatever it is he really wants (Lego!).

If you are sending I food for her at nursery, is that what all the other parents do? Don't all of the children have the same?

Just let her go & don't worry about it. The odds are peer pressure and / or hunger will sort it out in the end. My son eats way more varied food at nursery than he would do at home. - lamb tagine & cous cous? No mummy mac n cheese out of a can please. I know he eats the former in a monthly basis! Although he massively surprised me in eating whole cherry tomatoes the other day!