help me please

[frankiebuns]

My ds is 3 1/2 and is very clever and individual he has quirks ie going number 2 in pants and refusing to go on the toilet, chucking unwamted food drink on the floor I have told him no and explained but nope he still does it, he's worked out the pre school teachers want him to talk to him so he doesn't chat to them, he won't eat solid food at all well apart from pringles etc hates sweet stuff, if he gets sumything right ie letters I wi praise but I get tears and lots of them so I dnt praise as much as I want to! My mum says he's fine just quirky but I'm sure there's more to it dnt get me wrong I want him to be normal but there's my gut feeling he's obsessional and loves to line things up we have been to see a paedratrician and his iq is of a 7 year old but didn't diagnose autism, he does tick most boxes of sensory perception disorder but my mum says he will grow out of it but I dnt want him to fall behind at school with people he knkws he's an extrovert but with school he's quiet I'm heavily pregnant and want to nip nething in the bud before I'm too stressed with 2 any ideas

his iq is of a 7 year old IQ is IQ it isn't measured by age . What did the paed recommend as the next step ?

I agree with LIZS that you need to speak to the paediatrician again if you have been left unclear about what the next steps should be. Just because he isn't autistic doesn't mean he doesn't need additional help or treatment. There are a whole host of other issues that could be contributing to his behaviour.

In the meantime I would be consistent in how you deal with poor behaviour, and clear about what your expectations are.

Have you had a chance to discuss him with the pre-school teachers? If not then explain how different he is at home and ask them what they suggest you could do at home to help.

The paed drs said he's discharged and said he's functioning at a 7 year old level and just he's discharged,his teachers say he's quiet and refuses to talk at school and I laughed and said are u talking about my child, he realises if you want him to do something he won't blatently avoiding it he won't eat snacks he won't eat solid food I can't starbe him so I try I just can seee myswlf with 2 children like this and in acircle of never ending avoiding situations ie him not eating with other kids at partoes hell wandse off and I'm so embarassed he's now not been invited to friends parties cos they can't handle him

Would preschool refer , or your gp . Keep a diary of issues and present it . When is he due to start school ?

Not till 2015 he was born in september

So he ahs another year at preschool , what are they suggesting ? Did you just see a paed or was an ed psych involved? You need to go back to them and ask for a fuller assessment. In some ways he sounds immature of his age but early intervention can make a difference.