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Dry pants going well but not the poos, experiences please

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habbymum · 05/09/2006 21:24

After initially reluctance my 2.9 mth old son is now dry. Confident in using potty or loo or passing tree.We are really proud of him being dry as he was soooo resistant at first. He seems to be holding onto poos and waits til bedtime to go in his nappy. If he needs to go for a poo in the day goes in pants. I'm sure this will get better but would value ideas. We use star charts, lots of praise but would like others thoughts.

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lalalandmummy · 05/09/2006 21:40

my daughter now just turned 3 , at first would only wee on potty/loo. It took 3-4 weeks of persuasion to use the loo for a poo. She would hold on for 2 days at a time then go in her pants. Eventually the bribe of 'if you can do a poo onthe potty , you can go to buy something from the toy shop' worked! Any way just relax about it apparently this is quite common, I'm sure he'll get there soon.

dewmeadow · 06/09/2006 20:54

I am having EXACTLY the same experience with 2.9 yr old DD. Pees are nearly perfect so quickly and she's only had one success pooing in her potty. (I nearky cried I was so happy). Two days later and she hasnt repeated the miracle! (exasperated but remaining positive emoticon)

HOw come it says in all of my expert books that pooing comes first and peeing is much more difficult?

(maybe they werent written by actual mothers !!

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habbymum · 06/09/2006 20:54

Thank you lalaandmummy. Poos are not as regular as the wees so guess it takes longer. Don't want him to get constipated by holding on so will continue to try 'poo on potty' mantra.

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habbymum · 06/09/2006 20:59

Dear Dewmeadow,We have also had only one poo on the potty and I was really over the top with the praise. He was also really pleased and kept telling everyone.No joy since. I've now wrapped up some small cars (not expensive)and put them in a clear jar, one to be given when poos on potty. He associates stars with wees. Will see how we go. Good luck to you!

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dewmeadow · 06/09/2006 21:01

thats a good idea habbymum. Think Ill try that from tomorrow. You've given me a second wind. Good luck!

Astrophe · 06/09/2006 21:02

So glad other people have the same prob (well, not glad for you, but...you know what I mean) my DD 2.3 is EXACTLY the same. My HV said we should give her the option of having a nappy to poo in any time, so she doesn't hold on and make herself constipated. So when she needs a poo, we say "would you like to do it in the potty or a nappy?" and she always says "nappy"...hopefully one day she will say "potty". We also make sure she has a pot of Organix apple and prune (on sale at ASDA at the mo, 50p off) every day, or some dried fruit to keep things moving!

It is really frustrating (its been about a month now for us) and a waste of a nappy every night, but I suppose they will all get there in the end wont they.

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Astrophe · 06/09/2006 21:04

think i will try some little presents too. she had special markers she could use if she pooed, but I relented after almost 3 weeks of her whinging about them.

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jamiesam · 06/09/2006 21:13

Can only suggest patience and bribery! Worked for us, but not always in the way you expect...

Ds2 is just over 3 and recently wee and poo trained. For some time after he was reliably dry during the day, I think he was making himself constipated by refusing to do poos at nursery (3 days a week) or in a toilet (ie when out). With patience (loads of chats about where it's good to poo and more praise than you can shake a stick at) and bribery (chocolate button if he did a poo in toilet) he got over that. He now tries to do a poo every time he goes to the toilet (even though I've removed chocolate button reward!). Sigh. We'll get there in the end - as will you, good luck!

FrannyandZooey · 06/09/2006 21:15

Ds age 3 was scared of doing poos in the toilet or potty so we just asked him to tell us when he needed to go and we put a nappy on him. Increasing fruit and veg, plus liquids for a few days, so he couldn't keep holding on indefinitely, helped as well.

When he had relaxed about the whole thing and we had got in a good routine again, I did some big encouragement to go on the toilet (waited till couldn't wait much longer then quickly whisked him there with huge praise and a bribe). Once the first poo was produced he was so proud and we have not looked back.

Oh, a really secure and comfortable toilet insert seat with handles, and a step he can climb on and off from, really helped. We got some hideous Disney shite from Tesco's but it works well.

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FrannyandZooey · 06/09/2006 21:25

hello mlaroy

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habbymum · 06/09/2006 21:26

At least at the mo we can predict the poos are late afternoon, bedtime so I suppose it is catching that straining face and offering the pot. Does not like poo pants on and swiftly removes these. Says whoops should have gone on potty. Think adding more fruit to diet might help so poos don't hurt and make that they make a swift exit. Thank you for all your comments

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lalalandmummy · 06/09/2006 23:15

It is a big achievment when they do poo successfully on loo. However not so nice when they want to wipe their own bums and consequently make such a mess that it takes half an hour to clean up and/or use so many 'kandoo' type wipes that i shall have to call 'dyno rod' v.soon.

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habbymum · 08/09/2006 20:27

some progress with poos on the toilet but keen to get off loo rather to quick, poo in pants 30 mins later. Today took pant off and pooed on garden. Rewards at time seem to bolster his confidence. I think this is progress, patience is a virtue

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edam · 08/09/2006 20:31

Mine's like this too. We are doing OK with potty training as far as wee but he's never yet done a poo in the potty. Have given him lots of encouragement but seems very reluctant - holding on until bedtime nappy or just pooing his pants.

Will try the chocolate button thing, I think.

Elibean · 08/09/2006 20:38

Have heard that putting a nappy in the bottom of the potty can increase confidence in LOs that are nervous of letting their poos 'go' (IYSWIM). Not actually tried it, though - dd has not had a problem pooing in potty or toilet, though she DID take longer to realize that she needed one than she did with pee, so we had poo accidents only for a couple of weeks. Much longer - also don't know why the books say poos easier than pees!

Elibean · 08/09/2006 20:40

And definitely had lots of success with buttons (well, dolly mixture) here...I was nervous of using bribery in case it went on forever, but after a month she already forgets to ask for one 9/10

billandbenny · 27/09/2006 00:00

My daughter is 3.8 yo and still refuses to poo in loo. Asks for nappy which I give her. She has been dry day and night since 2yo. Her liitle sister age 1.11yo poos and wees on loo. Am worried she might regress seeing big sister use nappies. Have been relaxed about it so far and only occasionally mentioned the loo or tried to persuade her to use loo after I realised she was really scared of it. Says she doesn't like the splash. She has once pooed in potty when 2 yrs and a little poo in loo to get tutu I bribed her with about 6 mths ago. But nothing since. Gets quite hysterical about it. Have tried to get her to poo on loo for past 2 days and bribed with smarties - but cries and just holds on. Will make sure she drinks enough water and eats fruit/dried fruit to make it impossible to keep holding, but it is so hard to watch. I feel so bad and worried about her holding on for too long.

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