Different ways of playing

[isntthatapippip]

I just wanted opinions on this as my husband and I play very differently with our ds

Eg when playing cars ds will take them to the swimming pool and I will play along; my husband will say cars must stay on the road, do not make them fly, swim etc

I think play is when ds is in control and of he wants buses to swim fly etc then it's fine. I don't like to hear him being dictated to in the way he plays.

Husband says I am being controlling towards him and ds should learn buses don't swim.

What do you think?

I would agree entirely with your way. Your dc should be allowed to think creatively. Who cares if buses don't swim? Taking their lead and letting them make the play is the most important thing. Keep on correcting things leads them to lose their confidence.

You are right and it is your husband who is being controlling.

Creative play is so important to young children, it helps them explore the world around them. Even if your DS really believes that buses can swim it isn't a belief that is going to persist past his early childhood is it?

Anything wrong with both ?

Is there any reason he can't Have some dolls and take them swimming and flying?

Does your husband often accuse you of being controlling towards him when you disagree with his approach? It's quite an extreme thing to say in the context of two people who play differently.

And of course your way is right. I wouldn't make it an issue, though. Your son will learn not to play with his Dad all on his own.

Children should direct their own play
Her husband is so wrong
Cars can do anything a child wants them to

Thanks all

Thegambler, I wanted to find out if I should keep mentioning it or if both can work. Maybe they can. I don't know whether it's worth bringing it up again as it is quite a small point really.

I just would prefer ds had freedom to play his way, all the time but he could get used to both ways. He does love playing with daddy so it doesn't spoil it for him.

I don't think it is worth getting into an argument about because what actually matters is that your son and his dad are playing together. Criticising how each other play is unhelpful. Your DS won't be harmed by his dad's style of play, he'll get different things from both of you and that is lovely.