How to deal with this

[Blurry29]

Genuinely not trying to discriminate or offend anyone with this but really not sure how to deal with this.

My DS 8, a typical little boy (sometimes gullible but I blame his age)

Thankfully he is a very friendly and polite little boy who is often complimented on his manners.

We recently moved house and thankfully he has already made some friends who have knocked, had play dates etc.

He has been playing with another little boy in the street ( I will call him bob) bob is a polite chatty lad who I welcome in the house.

They have been playing all day with no issues. DS comes in tonight and I can tell something is bothering him, he then gets upset and says when I let bob out of the garage he pushed me against the wall and tried to kiss me and he has been telling me he loves me. DS started to cry and said I didn't like it and now people will think I am being gay with bob! He said he felt uncomfortable.

I replied by saying that maybe that's just how bob feels and that's his choice but to be honest next time and say he is happy to play but no "funny business"

DSis totally aware of gay couples (gay couples in family) so he isn't uncomfortable around them etc. He has from a young age been aware of same sex relationships. He has 2 uncles who he visits regularly.

I tried to keep the situation as calm as I could. I also said that I wouldn't repeat this issue at all not even to his dad

Any advice please? Could I do/say anything else?

Many thanks xx

Poor thing. The issue I would be most worried about would be the pushing against the wall thing. He has either seen this at home or on telly (which means he is being exposed to things that may not be appropriate) or he has a tendency for physical aggression. Either way I would monitor the situation and if our happens again speak to the boy's parent(s).

Not much above about what to say to your son. You could try the "you should feel flattered" approach. That might work as opposed to him coming from a point of shame for what happened. Not sure how appropriate that would be with your son, not knowing him.

I'd stress to my ds that no one should ever push him & that if it ever happens in any circumstance he should tell me.

I'd also talk about that it's ok that he feels heterosexual, but in the same way & with the same conviction others feel different, but it's ok for him to tell bob that they feel differently. There's no shame when you know who you are & express this matter of factly.

I'd probably just check in on it once in a while. And I'd probably tell his dad just for info and cos I'm crap at keeping secrets

Thanks all.

Yeah I told DH even though he will keep quiet for me at least he can watch out too.

I honestly never thought about the pushing thing but you're right, that isn't right at all

Thanks again xx

Did you tell the boys parents? I would want to know if it was my son he could possibly do it to another child with less understanding parents which could lead to lots of trouble for the boy and parents.

I haven't told them. Tone honest we are so new to the street I am still getting to know everyone properly, I wouldn't want to put bob in any kind of situation really (not knowing his parents fully yet, you ever know)

DS didn't mention this at all today but did have a slightly unsettled night last night.

Haven't seen bob today but we've been so busy

I will definitely monitor it though